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Question: Winter Formal

aussiegoat55

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Question:

So I have asked this girl to formal, and she accepted. My question is for an event such as a formal, would a DJ go about acting like a gentleman by,

Buying dinner?

Buying a corsage, or sending flowers?

Pushing in chairs, opening doors, etc?

Now I am not an ass kisser, doormat, nor wuss and would not do this on a date or a casual get together for coffee or something, but does the situation/event change how I should act? My concern is that if I do buy dinner, flowers, etc that I will come across as an ass kisser, but if I dont then maybe I come off as an ignorant, etiquette clueless, cheapskate.

Suggestions would be appreciated, thanks.
 

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Special occasions call for special treatment. Make her feel special.
 

Kev07

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You should get corsage because she will probably get a boutonier

you could send flowers if you want

for all the door opening, chair pulling, car door opening stuff like that, i would suggest doing it, since this is more like a formal event and formal events call for more formal(gentlemen measures).

if she offers to pay for her half of food then just give a "you sure?" and let her pay if she insists.

if you don't want to come across as an AFC, then skip the flowers, it's a one night thing, not a giftgiving day. let the actions come and die with the night.
 
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