"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Question to Asian and Indian guys that have dated cute white girls before.

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Or are dating them.

Do you notice that you get a lot more shocking looks from public and shocking reactions?

I live in an area that has a lot of Asians and Whites in it, my girlfriend is a blonde from Switzerland and she is good looking. Now as a Chinese guy, whenever we are out, I notice that we get the nastiest and harshest reactions from Asian women. Whitewashed Asian girls have openly said racist **** right to our faces such as "what the ****? HUH? Asian guy with white girl? Really?".

It doesn't just stop there, even guys from other minority groups jump into the hate train. A week ago, this black guy was hitting on my girlfriend while I was gone to use the restroom. As I come back and we hold hands, he openly says "wow, damn, looks like she likes it small". I obviously can't say anything racist to him.

Still, as an Asian guy in the USA who is dating a good looking white girl, I almost feel like the entire world is against us. At the same time, this has also encouraged me to go after white girls even more aggressively.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Asian guy here in 3 year LTR with white girl here.

Interesting that Asian women have said that sh1t, fwck them. Never experienced that before.

When we walk in public, we do get a good amount of looks from people doing a double take. On black guys though, I have a totally different experience. I almost always feel like I get some sort of subtle nod or look of respect from them, as if to say "Props bro, we're in the same boat with overcoming the difficulties of interracial dating."
 

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The thing is , does it really matter? No.
People have such reactions purely because they might have a jealousy against you or are coming from uncivilized places.

Stop giving attention to those negative fcks. It's simple.
 

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I was dating this white woman recently. We're both tall and attractive and honestly, if i'm having a good time, i mostly zone everything out around me and focus on who/what's infront of me. I did notice a few stares, but i could care less. I also try not to be your stereotypical skinny nerdy asian.
 

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Ignore that **** bro. As a black guy whenever I see an asian dude with a hot chick, hot or not. They get my respect. You guys really do have a lot to overcome in the terms of stigmas and whatnot.

What pisses me off is that you were getting shyt from what you described as 'whitewashed' asian women. They have no right, especially when they are the first ones to forego and downright disrespect anything asian and chase hard after a white man.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I do, and I don't tolerate $hit like that. Neither should you.
I am saying that guys like us do not have a choice, it is easy for a black guy to say racist **** to an asian or indian guy but not so easy the other way around. Double standards of American culture.
 
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