"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lghost

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Well if you post advice for the people needing it and maybe been doing it for a long time now.

Looking back at your confidence before you joined this forum and started helping people, Do you think helping out others has improved your confidence, noticeably?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Warrior74

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Wha? No. Helping people might make you feel better but it's not gonna help you out in the field. Only getting out in the field will do that. Of course I'm assuming that's the sort of confidence you are talking about...otherwise I don't see your point.
 

lghost

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yeah that's what I'm talking about, the field... Don't you think feeling better about yourself on the subject at hand would give you a slight bit of confidence on that subject? Or are you saying the subject doesn't matter and your only feeling better because you "think" your helping someone? feeling good or better = confidence (i have no cite)
 

lghost

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Thank You... Even if you have no clue in what your talking about yet believe in what your saying then, you have confidence. Oh and here's the best part, you can pull females on confidence ALONE.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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