"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lghost

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Well if you post advice for the people needing it and maybe been doing it for a long time now.

Looking back at your confidence before you joined this forum and started helping people, Do you think helping out others has improved your confidence, noticeably?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Warrior74

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Wha? No. Helping people might make you feel better but it's not gonna help you out in the field. Only getting out in the field will do that. Of course I'm assuming that's the sort of confidence you are talking about...otherwise I don't see your point.
 

lghost

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yeah that's what I'm talking about, the field... Don't you think feeling better about yourself on the subject at hand would give you a slight bit of confidence on that subject? Or are you saying the subject doesn't matter and your only feeling better because you "think" your helping someone? feeling good or better = confidence (i have no cite)
 

lghost

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Thank You... Even if you have no clue in what your talking about yet believe in what your saying then, you have confidence. Oh and here's the best part, you can pull females on confidence ALONE.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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