"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

*Question* SUPERCONFIDENCE Moods

SuPaF1y

Don Juan
Joined
May 2, 2005
Messages
162
Reaction score
0
Age
39
Location
Louisiana "The Boot"
Hey, i was wondering for the longest time, about the charicteristics of

SuperConfident Euphoric ect ect moods.

The coolest and "PictureBoy/Girls" of society have it and somehow
can keep it 24~7.

definition of the mood:

ultra-powerful state/mindframe
you feel unstoppable. Ultra sexy, ultra confident, where you can do no wrong.


It really is just a mood and its not WHO you are, when you have it, you can actually give it off like a AURA to everyone around you and you can pick it up just as easily, i'd like to know the phsyical changes when getting into this mood and breathing changes, because thats all it really is. its not what your thinking about its just your posture and breathing.

ex: i know for a fact:

holding your head high with a grin and deep breathing brings it out quickly,

i would LOVE to see posts on this and if there are any sites explaining the mood, thanks


Rob:cool:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Soprano

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 4, 2005
Messages
715
Reaction score
3
i'll let u in on a secret: nobody has it 24/7 ;)

when i tihnk of that i thikn of feeling super clean and crisp and everything is clear, comfortable in the environment and are sending off positive vibes, whole body is in synch with the universe, all of your insecurities die and you walk all over them
 

insidious

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 16, 2005
Messages
611
Reaction score
17
Aw dude I get that occasionally, rarely. When it happens it's a phukng novelty and I don't even know how to handle it. I'm afraid that it'll just leave me like that, hanging. Usually with me it's followed by a downer rebound where I feel kinda crappy, manic/depressive-like. It's odd. How anyone could attain that 24/7 is beyond me. Drugs? Mental illness?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

charlie brown

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 30, 2006
Messages
44
Reaction score
0
Location
college
insidious i know whatcha mean. its the same way with me, after, its like i go through a confidence withdrawl, i think this is just an ok feeling but not as good as that boost before so it feels kinda bad. like if one is on heroin all the time and then goes w/ out, of course not nearly as strong. I have found that coming here to these discussions has enabled me to suspend that feeling longer than usual and im learning how to do it willingly.
 

SuPaF1y

Don Juan
Joined
May 2, 2005
Messages
162
Reaction score
0
Age
39
Location
Louisiana "The Boot"
believe it or not, it can happen 24~7 and its easy to do if you know how to do it. i know people on here know how. we just need to see them post,

( on a side note )
- -
if we are on the same page and thinking of the same mood, its more of a

HYPE mood that girls arent nessisarily attracted to or pulled to but, this mood is definitally better then having girls hanging on your nuts because in this mood your really dont give a F*** because you KNOW they cant have you
 

LowPlainsDrifter

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 25, 2003
Messages
425
Reaction score
3
Location
Muskogee, OK
Isn't that the essence of NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming)?
To start to associate your higher "states" (especially confident, productive, etc), with a specific trigger, so you can summon those states at will or nearly at will?
 

SuPaF1y

Don Juan
Joined
May 2, 2005
Messages
162
Reaction score
0
Age
39
Location
Louisiana "The Boot"
im not sure but i doubt thats what im talking about,

i mean basic common sence stuff

if you think of the most "SUPERCONFIDENT"

person you know i really doubt they use NLP or whatever it is.


im talking about that
 

SELF-MASTERY

Banned
Joined
Dec 15, 2004
Messages
1,971
Reaction score
7
I've had that feeling all weekend. Self-talk helps.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

fonderboy

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 30, 2004
Messages
82
Reaction score
1
Location
USA
Isn't that the essence of NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming)?
To start to associate your higher "states" (especially confident, productive, etc), with a specific trigger, so you can summon those states at will or nearly at will?
Yes, it's called anchoring, and is based off the experiment of Pavlov's dog, where they could make the dog drool saliva in anticipation of food by merely sounding abell.

Furthermore, I have read studies and information about how your physical state can also affect your mental state. Like, if you were to purposely frown and sulk, you would feel worse in your mind, whereas if you were to purposely grin and laugh, you would feel better in your mind. Therefore if you change your body language and breathing so it is more relaxed and poised, you could probably improve your mental state as well.
 

Brian20o2

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 24, 2005
Messages
958
Reaction score
3
Location
Paradise (with rain)
fonderboy said:
Yes, it's called anchoring, and is based off the experiment of Pavlov's dog, where they could make the dog drool saliva in anticipation of food by merely sounding abell.

Furthermore, I have read studies and information about how your physical state can also affect your mental state. Like, if you were to purposely frown and sulk, you would feel worse in your mind, whereas if you were to purposely grin and laugh, you would feel better in your mind. Therefore if you change your body language and breathing so it is more relaxed and poised, you could probably improve your mental state as well.
Kinda like how right after a workout I have totally alpa posture and feel like a total stud/badass
 

DasaniWater

Banned
Joined
Mar 19, 2006
Messages
256
Reaction score
0
I've felt this way. Fonderboy is absolutely right. If your in a bad mood, just make yourself smile and laugh a lot, and you will start to naturally feel in a better mood. I always do it in my car on the way to work in the mornings.
 

T Money

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 9, 2006
Messages
343
Reaction score
3
Age
42
Location
California
Give yourself pep talks. look in the mirror and talk to yourself about whatever it is you're thinking about. Sounds lonely but it works!
 
Top