"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Question on visualization

Blahhh

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I heard alot about visualization (aka mental rehersal) and how athetes use it to great results. Of course, Don Juans can benefit by getting such skills.

I have the habit of visualizing myself in 3rd person view. So say I am visualizing myself taking a random corner on my motorcycle. I would visual myself leaning into the corner with my knee out, as if I am watching myself from another person' point of view. I think I can benefit more if I visual myself in 1st person view instead.

Question: Do you visual yourself in your "own" eyes, or in 3rd person prespective?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I visualise from my own perspective. Dont know why, its just what I do!!!
 

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I like to visualize myself in the experience as it's happening so I usually visualize 1st person. Although, Is also helpful to get a few 3rd person visuals just to see how your doing. There's psychology theory that says people monitor their reality based their constant awareness of their facial expressions. So in any given situation there is a chance that you're looking at yourself from the third person while you are in the situation if that is your style. So if your putting yourself in the situation as best you can then you're likely to be looking at yourself from several different angles, under different lights etc. I think that the feelings in creative visualization are more important then where you phyisically see yourself so focus on getting the feeling where you want it to be.

Kinda weird, I was reading "Creative Visualization" by Shakti Gaiwan today and I stop by this thread.
 
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