Question on Preventive Medicine

[Paarth Shah]

Hello all,

I have been reviewing through my Rational male books, 1 & 2 and something came to mind which isn't clearly explained in the text and thus thought I'd take it to the community to see if someone could explain it to me better.

1) For women in their "party years" where attraction is driven by physicality and they are not consciously looking for Beta male providers/security, why is it that these women still enter into long term relationships? If their brains are hardwired to not consider the role of long term security seriously at that stage in their life, why aren't they just simply sleeping from one male to the another?

2) For women in their epiphany years (28-30), I've seen many enter into commitments with very Beta type men. Men who I wouldn't hesitate in taking to the back alley and punching their lights out. No strength, no outward confidence, appearing timid and weak. Maybe they provide shared interests or are good in bed, I'm not sure. But regardless, on the outward appearance, I would dominate them in a contest of Alpha v Beta. So, my question is that, why are these women settling on their hypergamy with these betas even if there are still Alphas around that are showing interest in them (such as myself)?

Any assistance with these two topics would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance for your time and attention.

Paarth

 

[Desdinova]

1) For women in their "party years" where attraction is driven by physicality and they are not consciously looking for Beta male providers/security, why is it that these women still enter into long term relationships? If their brains are hardwired to not consider the role of long term security seriously at that stage in their life, why aren't they just simply sleeping from one male to the another?

A woman's "party years" are generally created by two things...
1) Young adult social life and
2) Being alpha-widowed

If she hasn't been alpha-widowed, she will easily forfeit partying for a relationship with an alpha-male. Women don't consciously look for a beta male/provider unless they've come to realize that they're never going to regain their first alpha-male that they desired when they were young (or replace him with an equivalent).

This is where me and Rollo will have a different opinion... I honestly believe that women ARE hard-wired to want the first alpha-male that gives them a sexual experience. When they aren't able to keep him (for whatever reason), they become permanently damaged, start adopting the "I don't need a man" attitude, and then enter party mode. That's when they start randomly sleeping with men. They won't do it in the beginning when they're desiring that initial alpha-male to have a "happily ever after" with.

In other words, the first man a woman falls deeply in love with is her soulmate. Once she loses that soulmate, she unsuccessfully tries to fill that void for the rest of her life.

2) For women in their epiphany years (28-30), I've seen many enter into commitments with very Beta type men. Men who I wouldn't hesitate in taking to the back alley and punching their lights out. No strength, no outward confidence, appearing timid and weak. Maybe they provide shared interests or are good in bed, I'm not sure. But regardless, on the outward appearance, I would dominate them in a contest of Alpha v Beta. So, my question is that, why are these women settling on their hypergamy with these betas even if there are still Alphas around that are showing interest in them (such as myself)?

This goes back to my first answer. Women will settle for Mr. Good Enough because they can't have the original alpha-male who left a huge emotional imprint upon her. She will take a guy who will donate sperm and give her money to buy shoes, as long as she can meet the demands of her ticking biological clock.

I'm convinced that when a woman reaches age 27, she starts to realize that her uterus is going to expire and will start to do desperate things in order to fulfill her maternal instinct. That's when Mr. Good Enough comes into the picture.

With regards to the alpha male who comes along after she's found Mr. Good Enough, she will willingly fvck the alpha male if he demonstrates that he's a higher value male than the schmuck that she's involved with. The problem you have now is that neither the alpha-male nor Mr. Good Enough will ever replace the initial alpha-male that she couldn't have.

Every man is going to be competing with that initial alpha male she had in her life, even if he's no longer in the picture. The only difference is when YOU are that initial alpha male in her life.

I wrote about all this in my High Score Theory. It's a lot like Rollo's Alpha-widow theory, but I honestly believe that the alpha-widow theory goes deeper, and that the term "alpha-widow" is a lousy way to describe the whole phenomenon.

 

[QuadDeuces]

First you need to define exactly what an alpha male is.
It is not always the bodybuilder with the biggest muscles who is always angry.

An alpha male is man with an abundance mentality, who is able to create an amazing reality for himself and therefore is able to attract and inspire other people. Alphas know that their thoughts create their own success and take responsibility. They remove negative people easily from their life and don't let them affect them too much.

Beta males are scarcity people. They see themselves as victims of life and feel they are entitled for the world to give them happiness, they believe they dont have power and all the bad that happened to them was never their own fault. They don't own their own reality. They cling onto other people because they feel they are entitled. They want revenge on ex lovers who they scared away with their victim mentality and clinginess.

Who do you think women like to be around?
The non needy, inspiring, high frequency alpha male?

Or the depressing low frequency, alway frustrated, happiness depended on validation of others, victim beta male?