"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Question on how she should dress...

Ridingthelightning

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Short back story - this older lady (over 10 years) calls and tells me her boy dumped her and we should hang out. Done deal.

She just texted and asked...
"Should I dress vamp or subtly hot? Where will we be going after (insert bar name)"

How would YOU respond?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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horaholic

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Tell her to wear something that matches your bedroom carpet.
 

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She just wants to know what the plans are so she can dress appropriately

Are you taking her to dinner after the bar or to a club?

She might want to wear heels but that would be bad for dancing.

If you plan on taking her to your place after the bar let her know. She might bring a few small items...to freshen up....before and after.

I've had many a woman run this line on me and that is exactly what they want. They want to be prepared.
 

horaholic

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Paradox said:
If you plan on taking her to your place after the bar let her know. She might bring a few small items...to freshen up....before and after.
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Better be VERY tactful about that one, if you decide that. The best way I know of to say that would be "If you happen to need a place to crash later, you can. Just dont get any ideas :)" or something similar.
 
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