Question on dealing with ex's sister.

[MackNation]

Long story short... Dated a girl for 2.5 years, broke up with her a little over a year ago. Whole time we were together i used to joke that her sister had a crush on me, because it seemed like she did. Randomly start talking to the sister the other day, light flirting, joked that we were married and had 15 kids, yadda yadda. She seemed at least mildly interested and she was trying to keep the convos going when they got stale

So my question is: Should I make a move and see about putting her on my lineup, wait for her to make a move, or not even bother?

Normally I would just go ahead and make a move myself, but I don't want her to freak and tell the ex that I am trying to get in her pants. I still talk to the ex on occasion and I wouldn't hear the end of it if something like that happened. Plus I figured at least some of you fellas would have some insight on this topic.

 

[TheCWord]

Why do you care if the ex freaks out?

 

[dementia]

What he said ^

Careful though she could be ringing you in. Her and her sis playing games with you. Although, relationships between girls. It does happen. Sisters though? Not sure.

 

[MackNation]

I guess I just don't want my ex to get wind of it and start blowing my phone up.
They don't live together and they were never very close, always seemed to be angry and standoffish with each other, so I don't think they're trying to set me up or anything. I think I just made up my mind on it. Thanks guys.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I'd love to say go for it, jump in head first, balls to the wall, best case scenario you get a sister-sister combo threesome!!

But, you're treading on dangerous ground, not sure what the ex is like, but if she was really into you and still is, something like this could send her flying off the rails. Not necessarily a great idea. BUT, it's still worth testing the waters

You need to judge the sister's interest level. She may just like you because it's taboo, dangerous ground, like the women who go after married guys. If so, great, and like anything else, flirt do whatever but feign interest in taking it to the next level....tell her it's not a good idea because you used to date her sister....then wait for her to pounce. What's a man to do? If she doesn't pour on the moves then you got out scott free, no harm. Win/Win.

As long as the sister's the aggressor you have some type of defense when your ex shows up at your doorstep with smoke pouring out of her ears, balls of flames in her eyes, and her head spinning around. Not much of a defense but, it's better than nothing.

 

[MackNation]

I figure i'll post an update just cause.

We went to the mall and hung out for awhile, she said at the beginning "you know jessica would be mad if she knew we hung out?" i was just like,"nah she would be fine, weve been apart for a year and she knows im seeing other women."

After we went around the mall once and had lunch, she asked if I wanted to come over and see her roommates bearded dragon since I have one as well. I'm just like sure why not I'm free for a few more hours. When we get there, the lizard is sleeping so we just went out into the living room and watched some tv, talked, and played a game of halo lol.

There were multiple times where if it was any other woman I would have just thought "game on" and went for it, but I guess I chickened out each time. Because she's my ex's sister. I could feel the tension... I just couldn't make a move. So after awhile I just said I had to be heading out, hugged her and went on my way. We agreed that we'd hang out again sometime but we haven't talked since hanging out.

I'll probably hit her up and see if she wants to come over and watch a movie tuesday, if she's down I WON'T make any excuses and go for it this time.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Yeah, you fvcked it up. When you ask for advice do you usually take it? Or are you like a woman who just likes to talk and live in its own little world?

 

[Cremasta]

If she comes back for another round of Halo, you're in!

 

[MackNation]

Yeah, you fvcked it up. When you ask for advice do you usually take it? Or are you like a woman who just likes to talk and live in its own little world?

I don't usually ask for advice, but when I do I treat it more so as a second opinion on the matter. Usually it helps me see more than just my side of the situation and I can hopefully make a "better" decision. Hopefully. I don't just "like to talk", I just figured I'd give an update on it in case someone was interested to know how it turned out. That and I think writing/typing out what happened will help me see exactly what/where/how I screwed things up and how I can improve next time.

If she comes back for another round of Halo, you're in!

I hadn't played halo since the halo 2 days, and at a low point in the convo I just said, "Hey, you said you have the newest halo? Let's play!"

 

[donking]

Sounds like you have 70% chance of banging the sister.

 

[Desdinova]

I hope you realize that she is not LTR material. If you happen to get into a LTR with her, your ex (her sister) is going to cause problems. Been there, done that. A jealous family member is your worst c0ckblocker.

 

[MackNation]

I hope you realize that she is not LTR material. If you happen to get into a LTR with her, your ex (her sister) is going to cause problems. Been there, done that. A jealous family member is your worst c0ckblocker.

Definitely not looking to make her a girlfriend for that reason and others. Just wanted to put her in my lineup, even if it only happens once. Ha

 

[jay07]

Update again when you go for the 2nd try. Im in a similar situation and just curious lol