question on confidence

[GaryUranga]

alright I have what could probably be a silly question I dont know, anyways

Ive read about having your confidence come only from who you are and getting those reference experiences that build your core cofidence, Ive heard about tim shaving his head, tyler goign into clubs with shopping bags or dressed like crap just so that you have your cofidence come from somewhere else that isnt your looks or whatever.

then I applied this to life, I shaved my head, IMO I look better with long hair and I liked my long hair, howver Im starting to dig my short hair, it was a headtrip at first I noticed myself even avoiding eye contact with ppl it made me realize wher eI had some weak points that when I felt like the **** cause I digged my long hair I just bypassed.

getting to the point Im thinking should I keep my hair short to force my confidence to come from inside, then recently I noticed how lazy ive got on my exercising and Im gettign a bit skinny, the same question came up, in my mind im like "ok well looks dont matter you should be doing appraches like this even though you dont like it" so basically is finding this balance between "looks dont matter and you shouldnt care" and not dressing good, having a haircut I dont liek as much and being skinny

 

[governor]

Hey mate,

Tell me if I'm on the right track but...

The way I see it, the point of dressing like crap is to force you to use your confidence rather than your looks, OR to prove that it isn't looks that get the girls, but rather your overall presence. Plus if you're dressed like an idiot, you really are going to have to rely on your confidence/humour/sense of fun.

BUT, that doesn't mean you should go out of your way to look like crap. There is nothing wrong with dressing to look good, or having a haircut you like, so long as you're doing it for YOU, rather than to impress some girl. If dressing well makes you feel good, then great. People will notice. But don't try and rely on the fact that you're dressed well or the fact that you have a great haircut to get you girls.

What gets you girls is your attitude, not how you dress or look. That is the point.

 

[Crazy Asian]

i fake my confidence

 

[Wynston]

Just imagine you are a prince, works for me...

I wrote a song called the princes of friday night... I'm in a rockband BTW!!