"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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white cloud 8

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Hi,

My ex-girlfriend messaged me on Facebook telling me to move on (I've been pouring my heart to her about trying to work things out...) and that she says that she has. My question is if she really has moved on, why does she still have me as her first friend on MySpace (I still have her as my first friend as well, we did that when we started dating last year). She still has all of the comments I sent her when we were going out on her profile (I still have the ones she sent to me as well). She doesn't check her MySpace that much but, I checked her profile today and it said that she logged in yesterday, she could have deleted me as her top friend, deleted all of my comments but, why hasn't she? is it possible that she hasn't moved on yet? as well as on Facebook, she still has all of my comments on her profile, comments I made of her photos, and she still has the photos that I took of her up as well. I don't know what this means but, I guess I might be over-analyzing...just a little :rock:. After she broke up with me she made me one her top friends on Facebook (second to her best friend), I did the same.

Why?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Rhoto

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Sounds to me like an emotional tampon. Show her that you're your own man, remove her from all your internet profiles, and act like she never existed.

Gauge her reaction, if she does nothing move on theres nothing to be done. If she asks you why you removed it, ask her why she cares?
 

ready123

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she doesn't wanna be with you enough that she told you straight up. meanwhile you're still clinging, looking for reassurance by analyzing who's on your top 8

move on. you're only 22. you'll have many more good times ahead
 

white cloud 8

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my ex-girlfriend is 28...
 

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white cloud 8 said:
My question is if she really has moved on
my question to you is: are you a woman? was this a dyke relationship?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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white cloud 8

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Do they *EVER* come back...? or is that solely her decision if she does in fact initiate contact again? from what I heard, it's once you move on that they sometimes come back (I find that odd).
 

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sometimes they come back and they tell you "you are the best man i have ever been with, i shouldn't have let go of you, pleeeeeeeease take me back, i ll do anything for you". you are so happy, you don't know what to say but you still love her, so you take her back, you 2 get married and then fly away in the white clouds on your pink unicorn!




























WAKE UP DUDE! this is the real world! after you pulled every AFC move in the book on the poor girl she will NEVER come back...
 

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white cloud 8 said:
my ex-girlfriend is 28...
And? She's playing you bro, keeping you in a jar "Break in case of Fire" deal. Open your eyes.
 

white cloud 8

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So...on Saturday night at around 1:30 in the morning I get a text message from surprise, surprise, my ex-girlfriend, she sent me a text saying "Hey". I responded back with "Hi" yesterday evening then, five minutes later she responds back with "Hows things?", I haven't responded back yet. I miss her so much, I could go on and on about that but, it would not do a thing because in the end, it is her decision. Right now though, isn't the ball in my court? because she has not heard back from me yet.
 
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