"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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question| mixed signals?

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emmet1

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hey i don't know where to post this so my apologies for posting on two discussions.

Hey, just for the record, i'm 18 years old and even a bit desperate for an answer here..
so my story is about this girl who I've had a month long thing with, we dated and just had fun. that was half a year ago.
since then we've kept on talking daily and in the past two weeks she started showing signs of attraction, such as asking if i would like to go to the beach with her and telling me lately she got dissapointed by guys and she hopes i wont hurt her.
then all of a sudden a few days ago she starts texting me saying shes at her friend's house having a girl's night out and asking me to come visit her,i tell her to wait patiently to Friday when we go to the beach(today actually).
since then she became indifferent and, as it seems, took a few steps back.
i didn't talk to her for a few days until yesterday and i didn't even mention the fact i hadn't sent her a message, neither did she. she still acted indifferent.
my question is, how am i gonna break that wall and get her to take those steps forward again?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You're thinking too much. You're dwelling on her too much.

You have plans for the beach with her today, right? Send her a text asking what time you're picking her up for the beach. If she flakes, spin more plates. If she goes to the beach with you, make sure you make it fun and initiate kino.
 
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she already went to the beach with her friends since i didn't ask her, it's almost noon here btw :D
 
SgtSplacker

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Nothing wrong with disappointing a girl it's actually a good thing to do every once in a while. But now you have to reel her back in by being cool with her.
 
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i was also asking this to get an answer whether this is still worth it.
and can you give a few more details? like whether i should ask her out again soon? etc..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Desdinova answered your question. When in doubt, game.
 
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SgtSplacker said:
Nothing wrong with disappointing a girl it's actually a good thing to do every once in a while. But now you have to reel her back in by being cool with her.
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This is true. I once posted about how a girl I was dating wanted to have a 3 way and I said no. It was a big debate. In hindsight, after that happened she spent the night with me every time I saw her until the relationship ended.
 
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