"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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question| mixed signals?

emmet1

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Hey, just for the record, i'm 18 years old and even a bit desperate for an answer here..
so my story is about this girl who I've had a month long thing with, we dated and just had fun. that was half a year ago.
since then we've kept on talking daily and in the past two weeks she started showing signs of attraction, such as asking if i would like to go to the beach with her and telling me lately she got dissapointed by guys and she hopes i wont hurt her.
then all of a sudden a few days ago she starts texting me saying shes at her friend's house having a girl's night out and asking me to come visit her,i tell her to wait patiently to Friday when we go to the beach(today actually).
since then she became indifferent and, as it seems, took a few steps back.
i didn't talk to her for a few days until yesterday and i didn't even mention the fact i hadn't sent her a message, neither did she. she still acted indifferent.
my question is, how am i gonna break that wall and get her to take those steps forward again?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LearningSlowly

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There is no wall, it is in your mind. Ignore it and kiss her.

If you don't kiss her, I recommend dropping this girl. It sounds like she's on your mind too much to be healthy.
 

alxrose04

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There's a chance she may have taken your comment as a rejection from you, hence why her actions may seem different. I wouldn't look too deep into it. You would just have to start back from step 1 and make her laugh, get her comfortable with you and comfortable touching. Then after you've build it back up again, you're golden!
 
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