"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Smooth Player 056

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Alright I have a question. Im starting tommow and i dont really have any good friends, im doing well with the ladies but not with the guys. So when lunch starts do I just get my lunch and approach a group of guys and ask if i can chill wit them? How would you go about this situation?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Smooth Player 056

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what u said works and all, but im talking about the first day. its lunch and you dont know anyone what do u do? do u just go up to guys that look cool and sit with them or what?
 

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That question has been on my mind too. My situation is that Im an RAFC and I have good friends and would like to make more friends so I can be a highschool mogul (just like the DJHSB).

If you are new to the school make a couple of friends during class so you can hang with them during lunch and get introduced to more friends. I would say "Hey man, where do you hang out during lunch?" would that work?
 

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Well like my first day as s ophmore, I would just walk from table to table looking like me awesome self. Then I sit where ever. But now at lunch I sit at the table woth soem funny people but they are all like potheads or something. Idk but their funny as hell.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
Alright I have a question. Im starting tommow and i dont really have any good friends, im doing well with the ladies but not with the guys. So when lunch starts do I just get my lunch and approach a group of guys and ask if i can chill wit them? How would you go about this situation?
Remember man, there are alot of people in the exact same position as you. Try and get in a group of people who have the same interests as you. & since all guys like girls: play it from that angle.

Just dont be scared.
 

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become friends with the "cool" kids if they have simliar interests as you, most likely girls. Girls and sports. that's the cool kids. oh and pot most likely.
 

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If your hanging out with the babes, other DJ will come to you. Or you go to DJ's.

You wouldn't want to make friends with people who hold you back from your game. (One of my friend or ex-friend did this)
 

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sometimes being a don juan doesnt get u good friends u can hang wit. u gotta let them come to u or just have a smile/smirk and let them start the conversation.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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don't ask "can I hang out with you guys" that will make you look like a loser. Sit with anyone, even if they're just acquintances, it doesn't matter.
Or you can sit with the girls you know, b/c there are bound to be guys there too.
 

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Check out the post in your other thread I made about this.

Just try to get chatty with a couple guys in your classes. Make a goal, talk with 1 guy (or more) in one of your classes that you are sitting next to. Small talk, and keep talking to him once class gets out. If it's not the period before lunch ask him where he hangs out. Tell him you'd like to hang out during lunch.
 

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Dude, take advantage of being back in school, it is an awesome time and the way to maximise it is to make as many friends as possible. Start speaking to as many people as possible. Lots of people will be new and not know anyone. Speak to everyone. It will give you social status and let you be seen as a cool, friendly, approachable guy.
 
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