"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Question: I have a month

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Spring Break is in a month and I'm wondering what sort of routine I should be doing.

I'm about 6ft tall, around 180lbs, and I'm lean muscled. What that means is I'm a little bulky, and I have a 4-pack that's decently defined, but am neither huge nor shredded.

I want to get into better shape for the beach and I figure a month is sufficient time to make some small changes.

So...

Should I do Starting Strength? Get a little bigger and stronger at the expense of a little bit of fat?

Or should I do Insanity? Get my abs cut a little nicer and increase my muscle definition?

Which is a more realistic goal?

My friend Thomas and I had an argument about this on Facebook, claiming that my abs won't be strong and defined if I don't do some resistance training, while I argued that they won't even show if I don't burn some fat and blahblahblah.

The quicker the response the better, because in about an hour I will either do my first session of Insanity, or continue on my Starting Strength routine.

Please help a guy out, peace.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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your body is for LIFE, dude, so don't limit yourself to 1 month, or 1 year, either. Get and stay fit and you'll have another 10-20 years of ENJOYABLE life than if you let yourself go, and/or eat stupidly.
 
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I think what twentee is saying, is that there isn't a program that's gonna get you all jacked and tan in only one month. That is just reality. Unless you wanna resort to steroids...
 
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I'd say go body weight exercises and sprints. And go carb-free with tons of protein. It's really that simple.

Find yourself a park with some playground equipment, do dips and pullups. Do some pushups and sit-ups. Run 10 40 yard sprints with 15 seconds rest in between.

Won't gain much, but you'll definitely improve what you have. You don't have the time to gain anything significant, so concentrate on making yourself appear lean and solid.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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another day, another person attempting to change their body is such a short period of time. doesnt anyone know what hard work is anymore? Not even, if youre on steroids/ph's you still have to work hard if not harder to see great results. I know people who have been on steroids and havent gained a pound. Start researching.

first off all , crossfit is lame.
Second, if you go strength you are talking about a powerlifting approach. Have you seen those guy ? unbalanced and bulky huge , not cut.

Third. I say you do something along the lines of German Volume training. allowing you to lift heavyish, use high volume, gain a good amount of mass and at the same time lose a bit of bf% depending on your diet.

Research research research.
 
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JohnChops said:
another day, another person attempting to change their body is such a short period of time. doesnt anyone know what hard work is anymore? Not even, if youre on steroids/ph's you still have to work hard if not harder to see great results. I know people who have been on steroids and havent gained a pound. Start researching.

first off all , crossfit is lame.
Second, if you go strength you are talking about a powerlifting approach. Have you seen those guy ? unbalanced and bulky huge , not cut.

Third. I say you do something along the lines of German Volume training. allowing you to lift heavyish, use high volume, gain a good amount of mass and at the same time lose a bit of bf% depending on your diet.

Research research research.
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Ok, I know you get a lot of noobs in here thinking they can change themselves in a month or two...READ MY QUESTION!

I have a short amount of time to make a small difference. I asked which would be more realistic in the time I have; lose a few pounds and get a little more cut, or put on a little more mass. Keyword LITTLE. I don't expect to go from what I am now to some Brad Pitt lookalike.

As for the rest of your post, thanks for the advice.
 
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To clarify: BPH has been working out for over 2 years, doing various programs such as Starting Strength. He's not a newcomer, but he's simply searching for the best choice to make over the next month regarding aestethics.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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NorwegianDJ said:
To clarify: BPH has been working out for over 2 years, doing various programs such as Starting Strength. He's not a newcomer, but he's simply searching for the best choice to make over the next month regarding aestethics.
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In this case, it's probably all a diet thing. Eat nothing but fish, chicken, broccoli and brown rice. (Rice after workouts).
 
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speed dawg said:
In this case, it's probably all a diet thing. Eat nothing but fish, chicken, broccoli and brown rice. (Rice after workouts).
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As long as he's hitting his macros and fibre requirements, he's fine. Such strict dieting isn't needed.
 
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