Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
if more than 2 people told you you're good looking then you probably are. to me it doesn't matter if it's men who said it because trust me, straight men can tell if a man is good looking or not. other way to know is if you get mesmerized stares from chicks on the street.lordson said:How do you tell? i find that how i look in the mirror seems to differ a bit to what i look like in photos
i think i look pretty good front on, but side on its not as good
how do you know for sure?
i get comments from straight guys all the time saying im good looking
but that doesn't hold much credibility with me, im okay with judging other guys looks but dont really know what women want, like most men i assume.
have had one or two comments as well from women, saying im 'cute' and one said i shouldn't go out with this girl because itll pollute the gene pool i should keep my good looks elsewhere.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I get compliments from straight guys. I've been called good looking to hot, by guys. I know they are sincere about that because I've heard it from strangers with no vested interest in buttering me up.lordson said:How do you tell? i find that how i look in the mirror seems to differ a bit to what i look like in photos
i think i look pretty good front on, but side on its not as good
how do you know for sure?
i get comments from straight guys all the time saying im good looking
but that doesn't hold much credibility with me, im okay with judging other guys looks but dont really know what women want, like most men i assume.
have had one or two comments as well from women, saying im 'cute' and one said i shouldn't go out with this girl because itll pollute the gene pool i should keep my good looks elsewhere.
I'd bang youreal2 said:I am fukin sexy as fuk! :rockon:
Here is an image of me with solid fatties
http://img338.imageshack.us/img338/8/39103556343091504322720.jpg
I'm a motha fukin pimp!
this!Holland said:It's sad how most guys are these days.
Topics like this. Men being as concerned about their looks as women. Why don't you go get together with your buddy's and talk about your feelings towards the imperfections of your body. Maybe you should buy some make up so you'll look better.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
More than 2? In one night maybe. Not in your whole life (family members don't count).budisudaryo said:if more than 2 people told you you're good looking then you probably are.
Exactly. Also, if you have $500 to burn that night (and don't need any medication) you will be very attractive. So work hard for 20 years and you can earn more. Did you ever think it might be fun to spend lots of money with beautiful women?floydb25 said:Generally, if you are being successful, and have several women showing interest - you're probably good looking. If you're attractive enough - women will come to you.
3 day fast? what do you mean?bigneil said:More than 2? In one night maybe. Not in your whole life (family members don't count).
When you are looking good, at least one woman per week will say you are handsome. Randomly at the mall, etc. It varies based on health. Go on a 3 day fast and you'll have a healthy glow and you'll see what I mean.
Why not post your photo on Hot or Not?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.