Question for tonight

[biobotz1001]

A girl I've been seeing, who is moving away soon, stood me up yesterday. I called her to make sure she was fine, and say it is rude and disrespectful to pull crap like that. She said she was feeling sick and fell asleep, which could be bull**** I wouldn't know. She asked me to call her tonight when I'm free.

Since she is moving in a week, I figure I'll call her. Having my time or opinions disrespected is at the top of the list of stuff to do to piss me off. I don't want to vent at her, as I want positive contact to some of her friends when she moves away.

So I figure I'll call her, do something social, I can ask for friends numbers and if she apologizes great, if she wants to talk about it I'll probably tell her it was a bullsh*t thing to do and I don't want to discuss it so as not to emotionally crap on her before she leaves.

Anyone have opinions on this kind of event. Thanks.

 

[biobotz1001]

also

If someone can reply before 5pm that would be great.

 

[Mr. Latte]

Don't bother calling her. If you were into a girl, you'd never dream of falling asleep when you were supposed to be out with her, would you? If you weren't feeling well, you'd call ahead of time, and change plans. Intentional or not, it's a lack of common courtesy. And since she's leaving in a week anyways, you're not losing out.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Don't call her. If she wants to talk, then she can call you.

 

[biobotz1001]

true

I totally agree. In the past if something like this comes up I would just throw their number away, and yes even though I like her, her leaving soon makes it easier to just blow her off. But I would really like to get access to her friends when she leaves, and I would be losing out on them. I don't want to blow other good options.

 

[Mr. Latte]

Losing out on other options? If she spit in your face, and you didn't call her back, you be losing out on other options? What if she told you off for no reason, in front of all your friends? Of course not. You'd be in the right, she disrespected you. So how is this any different. If her friends are real women, they'll be impressed that you were able to stand up for yourself. It can only add to their attraction, so long as you do it in a civilized manner. Just avoid calling her. If she wants a date, she'll call YOU.

 

[biobotz1001]

I don't have the means to contact her friends, I have met some and agreed to see eachother sometime, but I'm suppose to need their phone numbers, which she is suppose to provide.

I agree totally with regard to the severity of that behavior, and I do consider it akin to calling me up and telling me that I an a steaming turd that deserve no respect. So if she wants to date me i can careless, she would have to do something very impressive to make me care. I would like to still get those numbers, then I can not call her.

Is there a tackful way to do this or is my thinking flawed.
Thanks for the responses.

 

[Mr. Latte]

Call her in a few days and ask her for her friend's number, because she wanted to hang out with you. If she mentions something about your date, say "It's ok, I was out that night." Let her know that you have bigger and better things going on.

 

[biobotz1001]

alright thanks

Thanks for the advice, I feel more sure now. If anything interesting happens I'll post an update.