"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alpheta

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if you've hurt your girl to the point where shes 'given up' what do you do? I mean women are emotional, they change directions like the wind. So surely its just temporary?Therefore when a man chases her and is apologetic it turns her off even more, no?

Its clear that when a man chases a woman when hes hurt her to fix things and apologieses she despises him more. IN this case, should you just let it be and go silent until she returns, even though its your fault?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yes. Deep down women love a-holes. Say you are sorry once. If she can't get over it then she can't. Acting weak and smothering her with apologies will only drive her into the arms of some other dude and she will blame everything on you anyways.
 
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Mostly they are turned off by apologies because they're shallow. When I apologize I do it once and I sincierely mean it if I do. Make it your last word and disappear off the face of the earth if they don't accept it.

They'll either not give a fvck or they'll burn as they remember you last words and maybe give it another chance.
 
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