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Question for the clubbing pros

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The best club in town is 2 blocks from my apartment, and I go there regularly to meet girls. I'm not sure how I rate on a scale of 1 to 10, but on more than one occasion I've had cute girls (HB7s) approach me in the club asking me to dance after I've made eye contact with them, so I'm assuming looks/style aren't my problem.

So last night I approached an HB8 in the club, grinded with her for a couple songs and then got a drink with her and her friend at the bar. I made small talk with her and her friend a bit. She was asking me a lot of questions, showing her interest level in me. So I drank my beer and then headed back out to the dance floor with the two of them. I danced another song with her and then got her digits and left cause she was pulling away to dance with her girl friend who wasn't being approached by any guys.

My question is, once you approach that hot girl and dance with her for a couple of songs, how do you maintain her high interest level? In other words, after you start dancing with a girl who's showing an interest in you from the get go, how do you clubbing pros build on her initial attraction to you to the point where she's ready to get into that cab with you?

It happens time and again that I'll be dancing with a girl that has demonstrated an initial attraction to me, we'll dance a couple songs and then I fail to build on that initial attraction and it goes nowhere. Any tips?

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Roman
 

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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I agree with his reply, but not all of that has to be done at the club. Actually, it will be somewhat difficult to makeout, and get her buying temp up at the club.

You have an amazing resource available to you. You live close to the bar! Dance, get a drink, then suggest a venue change.

"You girls aren't too wierd, we should go get some drinks at my bar a couple blocks down."

If she's digging you enough to approach you, then it shouldn't be hard to venue change immediately. Isolate as fast as you can.

Respectfully,

Ezekiel
 

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I missed that part, you live close to the club LoGiCBomB is right you can suggest a venue change quite easily. Why do you think it’s difficult to make out at a club LoGiC?

When I use to go clubbing, I always made out with girls and started touching in a club. At that point she would suggest a venue change…
 

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i see what you guys are saying.

i'll give it a try at the club tonight and keep you guys posted with my results.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Say something clever. Getting a smile out of her is the first step. Grinding is for the butt-ugly guys that are going for the dogs. Hot chicks (w/ any self-esteem) don't grind. You guys need to quit kidding yourselves. Chicks that make out w/ you in a club also = woof woof. If you just need a warm body to stick it in then that's cool but if you wanna get a piece of USDA Prime then you'll need to use your brain and seduce her w/ clever dialogue and strong psysical presence.
 

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BOWIE said:
Say something clever. Getting a smile out of her is the first step. Grinding is for the butt-ugly guys that are going for the dogs. Hot chicks (w/ any self-esteem) don't grind. You guys need to quit kidding yourselves. Chicks that make out w/ you in a club also = woof woof. If you just need a warm body to stick it in then that's cool but if you wanna get a piece of USDA Prime then you'll need to use your brain and seduce her w/ clever dialogue and strong psysical presence.
Perfect.
 

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BOWIE said:
Say something clever. Getting a smile out of her is the first step. Grinding is for the butt-ugly guys that are going for the dogs. Hot chicks (w/ any self-esteem) don't grind. You guys need to quit kidding yourselves. Chicks that make out w/ you in a club also = woof woof. If you just need a warm body to stick it in then that's cool but if you wanna get a piece of USDA Prime then you'll need to use your brain and seduce her w/ clever dialogue and strong psysical presence.
What clubs do you got to, see I go to classy clubs were the rule of thumb is nothing under a HB7 is allowed through the door. In these high class clubs you can grind HB10's girls and make out with them in the club. It is really idiotic for you to generalize like that; every girl that makes out in a club being ugly is a ridiculous statement.

If you go to your trashy hip hop, RNB club were they let any guy in that is probably the case. If you go to the high class clubs you can make out with HB10's and take them home that night. Rich, confident, sexy women enjoy sex just as much as all women maybe even more.

We need to stop kidding ourselves? You need to stop kidding yourself just because you don’t have the skills to seduce a HB8+ right then and there on the dance floor it doesn't mean that nobody can.

To Roman, forget what this guy is saying he has no idea and he is most likely a KBJ with no real world experience.
 

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AngelusPUA said:
I missed that part, you live close to the club LoGiCBomB is right you can suggest a venue change quite easily. Why do you think it’s difficult to make out at a club LoGiC?

When I use to go clubbing, I always made out with girls and started touching in a club. At that point she would suggest a venue change…
Well it's not that difficult, but a lot of times a girl's social programming will kick in when her friends are present and she will turn up the resistance.

I find it easier to isolate before making out. I suggest strong kino, but save anything heavier for later, after you're isolated. I've tried both and it seems the latter works smoother.

She knows you want to kiss her, and you know she wants to kiss you and more, and by isolating her and venue changing, you are taking into consideration her image to her friends. A lot of times girls won't follow through or will be reluctant to do anything because they don't want to seem like a slut in front of their friends.

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BOWIE said:
Say something clever. Getting a smile out of her is the first step. Grinding is for the butt-ugly guys that are going for the dogs. Hot chicks (w/ any self-esteem) don't grind. You guys need to quit kidding yourselves. Chicks that make out w/ you in a club also = woof woof. If you just need a warm body to stick it in then that's cool but if you wanna get a piece of USDA Prime then you'll need to use your brain and seduce her w/ clever dialogue and strong psysical presence.
You need to quit kidding yourself. The hot and classy ones probably won't grind with you and many other guys, but when she's really attracted to one specific guy, she will do anything.

We all know that when women say "I don't XYZ", they are NOT necessarily lying. But when the "right" guy comes along, she will kiss on first date, she will sleep with him quite quickly, and she will grind.
 
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