Question for men 45 and older

[RangerMIke]

I'm glad I have my girls, but having to put up with the ex is a pain, IMO it was/is worth the trouble with the ex. I had them late in life (38 yo), I'm not sure I would have the will to have kids now (age 49).

Don't have kids if the only reason is pressure from family, especially as old as you are. Look.... the only real reason for a man to have children is to pass his values onto another generation. You can do this without having kids, go into teaching or Big Brother program.... IMO 45 is too old to start thinking about a family, especially if, as you say, you really aren't thinking about it much.

 

[Julian]

Sad to say, but that mindset is what gets a lot of people to this sight. They justify "time in" as a reason to "stay in".

What if I told you instead that I was in a 4 year relationship that was the best one I ever had, a 2 year rocky relationship, a 6 year relation ship with a live in FWB, and a 2 year relationship that was an incompatible prison??
The kicker was that they were all with the same girl. Should it be "for life" then?

The truth is that we journeyed for quite some time together and at some point we hit a fork in the road and each chose a seperate path (back then It wasn't that easy). I don't regret the time, I embrace what I learned along the journey.

5 years after the relationship our paths crossed again. I met a weathered her and she met ZTIME, both of us changed from the paths we chose. We're good friends, and I wouldn't have it any other way. I am happy we never married.

There is no right or wrong. There is no time investment that will ensure a happy partnership. There is truly just the journey of life. Fill it with friends, women, fun, and experience, but remember: some of the journey you'll need to walk on your own. It's these paths that seperate the pretenders from the contenders.

Thanks for answering that, brings some insight to us guys who havent been in relationships of that length...makes sense.