question for mature dj's on marriage

[crowes22]

Originally posted by Cesare Cardinali
Crowes wrote:
"I am the one with everything to lose, not her"

Dude, you crack me up. Do you attract any chicks with this attitude?

Cesare, you just don't get it. Your thinking is flawed. I'm not gonna explain it. I think it best people come to some realizations on their own.

And yea, I attract chicks, I assure you. They chase and usually don't catch me, if they do it is only for a brief period of time. I frustrate the hell out of them, this is what causes them to fall for me. They become obsessed, and I become turned off.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Travis1962
Regarding statements of women who got "stuck" with their kids - these statement smack of the same rhetoric of women avoiding responsibility. When ANYONE has a child, they accept joint responsibility. "Joint" does NOT mean it's a 50/50 deal - it means that each person is 100% responsible. (Think about joint credit cards). So, when you have kids, everyone should be prepared to raise them on their own - without complaint. With the joy that comes with being a parent.

I don't know if you're referring to what I said or not, but if you are then you missed what I was saying. She had three kids when her ex ran off and took all the money. All I was trying to illustrate is that she had herself and three young mouths to feed, a home to pay for, electricity to pay for, all kinds of other bills -- and he left her without a dime.

What he did (running off and taking everything) would be bad enough if it was just her, but he did it to her and three kids. To me, that just amplifies what he did. That's the only reason I mentioned the kids.

 

[Travis1962]

Giovanni,

I wasn't referring to the guy that took the money and ran - I agree with your statements. Guys who take all of the money are breaking the law and are likely to get in trouble with a judge. I was speaking more to another comment about a woman who had four kids and the author of the post was eliciting sympathy for her being a single mom.

 

[BigDawg]

I got divorced in North Carolina and it was uncontested, meaning that my ex-wife and I worked out the distribution of our assets in a Separation Agreement, without having a judge step in to decide for us. All the judge did was sign off on the petition to end the marriage. It was a lot cheaper that way, and saved me a lot of grief (and money). And my ex never once considered asking for alimony. I think she wanted to cut ties and burn bridges. So, while this chapter in my life was a lot more painful than other chapters, I wasn't cleaned out and there was no way she would have succeeded if she'd tried.

I don't know about most states in the US, but in North Carolina, if the divorce is contested (i.e., a judge has to decide on who gets what), then distribution of assets is usually "equitable" not "equal." This means that the judge could decide a 60-40 split of assets, or whatever he thinks is equitable. It isn't always 50-50, but that's probably the norm.



<plink> <plink> as two more pennies land in the bucket.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Travis1962
Giovanni,

I wasn't referring to the guy that took the money and ran - I agree with your statements. Guys who take all of the money are breaking the law and are likely to get in trouble with a judge. I was speaking more to another comment about a woman who had four kids and the author of the post was eliciting sympathy for her being a single mom.

Gotcha.

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by dietzcoi
Why would anybody come on here and attack crowes22 for telling the truth? He is trying to help guys avoid being taken to the cleaners! Why are some of you against this?

Do not play CPT-SAV-A-HO!!

How many times do we have to tell you that?

Crowes22 is 99% dead on..

Thanks man, but it's ok, the attacks I take, for preaching the truth to a site full of puzzified boys.

They WILL learn. The HARD way. The REAL fvcking hard way.

Let's be thankful that you and I have been granted the wisdom to see what alot of these dyckheads cannot.

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by Cesare Cardinali
Furthermore, unless you're a loser too, you should be aiming for high quality chicks that make as much money as you (or more) and who wouldn't have any any need or reason to take you to the cleaners.

However, your attitude conveys to me that you've got low self esteem and don't trust in your abilities to attract a great girl; in which case you know that you'll probably settle for some trailer trash reject and you're arguing that a pre-nup is your best form of protection.

I simply cannot resist replying to this, I wasn't going to at first but it really makes me laugh.

Here is the problem though: My only reply is: hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by crowes22
I simply cannot resist replying to this, I wasn't going to at first but it really makes me laugh.

Here is the problem though: My only reply is: hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

huh?

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by penkitten
huh?

Yea, I 'almost' hate to say it. But I'm going to anyways for the sake of others.

You want to fvck me. I know you'll deny it, that's OK.

Now that I have acknowleged it, you want nothing to do with me.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by crowes22
Yea, I 'almost' hate to say it. But I'm going to anyways for the sake of others.

You want to fvck me. I know you'll deny it, that's OK.

Now that I have acknowleged it, you want nothing to do with me.

wtf?

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by penkitten
wtf?

I said earlier I wasn't going to explain it, and I still refuse to. It is a secret.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by crowes22
It is a secret.

sosuave is the place to unleash secrets.

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by penkitten
sosuave is the place to unleash secrets.

Your'e right PK, maybe I will write one up soon and post in tips.

 

[DJohnson]

Using "Alpha" techniques with a woman who seems nice and intelligent ON THE INTERNET I just do not understand...

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by crowes22
Your'e right PK, maybe I will write one up soon and post in tips.

i dont understand if you are just saying this because i didnt agree with the pre nup idea ( to each their own i yi yi )
or if that is a knock at me for posting in the tip section recently.

what gives?

why are you so into busting my chops lately?

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Oxide
ok PK and crowes, shut your mouths!


We are here to discuss something important, and not play "who is the retard?"


Rollo, given all you wrote, what made you marry then?
To answer your question, i think "Kids and stability" are two big reasons guys get married... we are taught that we cant be stable without a woman to take care of us.. and some of this is true..imagine being 50 and alone..what would you do?

maybe he was in love when he got married

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by penkitten
i dont understand if you are just saying this because i didnt agree with the pre nup idea ( to each their own i yi yi )
or if that is a knock at me for posting in the tip section recently.

what gives?

why are you so into busting my chops lately?

lol. It's ok, baby, I understand. Relax. I will try to explain this when I find time. PK=cool girl. I'll reply.

 

[FratAndDiddy]

wow.....good thread

i've been married and divorced 3 times and i can't remember many good moments from either. sex never flowed in any of them.
the sex and money arguments were constant.
yep, alimony is very alive in ohio.

to anyone thinking of marriage:
the main question to yourself and posted by others is "what's in it for me?" you will struggle to answer this question honestly.

 

[( . )( . )]

Wait, there are Western men who still believe in marriage here? :crackup: Jeeezus ,even my mother pulled me aside and told me NEVER marry, and that was like 20 years ago when it wasnt half as a joke for a man as it is today.

Rollo Tomassi that was one of the most no nonsense , descriptive posts on marriage I've read on here, you explain what its all about perfectly and I believe it should be mandatory reading , definately Bible material.

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by crowes22
lol. It's ok, baby, I understand. Relax. I will try to explain this when I find time. PK=cool girl. I'll reply.

PK, I didn't even know you had posted anything in tips til you replied here, I sware. I just don't go over there much. I did read your tip after you replied here, I know it's about me, that's OK. You are entitled to your opinion.

I'm not trying to bust your chops, we simply disagree. From my experience, most girls don't deal well w/ disagreement/hearing NO from guys. Because most guys won't do it/say it. Therefore the women have become conditioned. I think this what we have here. I was going to give a lengthy response, but I just don't feel like it. If I do I'll post it in tips.

--Crowes