"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Question: did she flake on me?

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A bit of background info guys, I work at a restaurant with the front end staff which is almost exclusivley attractive females. I usually dont dtae women from work but have been known to break that rule a few times...

Recently a hb8 has started working there. She is quite shy so I have been taking it slow, just building raport. I decided to ask her out tonight. The conversation went something like this..

Me: What are you up to tonight?

Her: Well me and a few friends were probly heading to a club

Me: Well Im getting off soon so you want to join me for a drink?

Her: Sure I'll be off in half an hour if you want to wait at the bar(our restaurant has its own bar)

Me: Sure Im still decideing what Im doing tonight so Ill stick around for a few minutes(there were other co-workers there so it didnt look like I was just waiting for her)

So I wait with other co workers for about 20 mins when another buddy comes up and said that she just left with 3 girls 10mins ago. She never came up to me or said anything about leaving. So basically Im treating it like a flake.

Im going to see her tomorrow at work and am not too sure how to deal with this. Should I act as if nothing bothered me? or should I confront her about it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated

thank you
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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dropit said:
I usually dont dtae women from work but have been known to break that rule a few times...
How about not breaking that rule the next time especially if you can physically see the girl more than 5-10% of the time at work?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Next time you see her say " sorry I didn't hang around but I met a hot chick and... well, you know how those things go".

Act like you blew her off and not the reverse.
 

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You put her in a tough spot and you were treated acordingly. Never hit on coworkers.

IF she is that hot to break the rule than quit and than hit on her. Both are just as pathetic...

Ohhh... Got to go the new HB9 that started today showed up... I am going to go serge her!!!!

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Well obviously her interest wasn't there. Just ignore the situation and treat as if nothing happening.
 

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flexion_ said:
Well obviously her interest wasn't there. Just ignore the situation and treat as if nothing happening.
I agree, her Interest Level was very low. You could call her on it, but I think that would work aganist you.

Is she married, single, in a serious relationship? You need to find out these tidbits of information so you know what your dealing with.
 

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Kings_royalty said:
I agree, her Interest Level was very low. You could call her on it, but I think that would work aganist you.

Is she married, single, in a serious relationship? You need to find out these tidbits of information so you know what your dealing with.
This is basically the approach I will be taking; acting like nothing happened. I definatly wont be asking her out again. I know that she isnt in a serious relationship because in our previous conversations she dropped hints that she was single and looking. This is why I approched her at work.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I like turning it around as if YOU left HER hanging. Shows that you're spontaneous, you got other girls going, and you don't need her. Also kinda puts her in her place without her even knowing it.

Its like killing 4 birds with one stone! Heh, imagine that.
 
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