"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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question about workplace behavior

rocco

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i got a new job. my dad's been telling me to always say "hi" and try to strike up a conversation with everyone. i was like "whatever." my mindset going to work is, that i'm going to go there, do a good job, and go home. My life belongs outside of the workplace, and I would like to keep the socializing in the office at the minimum.

it seems like some of the people at the office, love to socialize. it just seems so FAKE. their obviously socializing to get ahead in their positions, imho.

here's the problem. there are some catty behavior going around, and i don't want to be singled out. i'm trying to stay away from the office drama. what's the best way of staying out of the office drama?

my goal at work is to get my work done, get paid and leave a happy man everyday. and hopefully get promoted for doing well at what i do at work in the future.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You'll figure it out once you get to know everyone. Pretty soon you'll feel comfortable around all these people. Just be yourself, be a cool dude, you'll get to know your co-workers better. Just keep it real.

Office drama? That's hard to avoid. This is how people bond, through gossip and crap like that. It's not really something you can get around, but you can just make sure you don't say anything you'd be embarassed for someone else to repeat. If you do that, you should be fine.

Be yourself, do a good job... this is what's known as a "non-issue".
 
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