question about this whole interaction thing

[cool dude]

What's goin on everyone. I would like to get better at talking to woman and well just get better socially overall. I have been reading on how to talk and what to do and all that stuff but I feel like I am getting ahead of myself.I read all this stuff and every article says I use to act like this or I use to do that,well I am sure they didn't have any advice on the stuff they had problems with and they are now great at picking up women. I am thinking I should get my hands dirty and just start talking to women and anyone else,but what I am thinking is that will I never learn from all those interactions.Will reading and doin research help out at all? Reading alot of this stuff I realize some of the mistakes I make when interacting but I feel like I don't correct those mistakes,it's like my head just goes on auto pilot.

Maybe through enough practice I will get better I'm sure but damn right now it is really frustrating. Oh I didn't really give ya'll my background story,I'll make it short.I moved to florida 6 months ago and still don't know anyone.I meet some people but alot of the times I never hang out with them.I call and it just doesn't happen.I have a little social anxiety but I just got work at a restaurant so I think that will help greatly. I don't really go out that much cause I don't know anyone,I figure I should just start walking the streets and walk up to people.How does that sound?

 

[WhtRbt]

What really worked for me was devouring all the information I could get my hands on. There is so much information and knowledge. There are different schools of thought, different methods, techniques, everything. I read the entire DJ Bible, all of the posts in the archive, The System by Doc Love, all the free Ebooks from the dj bible site, David Deangelos stuff, The mystery method, and tons and tons of posts on this site which lead me to even more reading.

Some of it really hit home for me, and some of it I didn't really agree with, but I read it all anyway. Now all of this reading took months. But what happened was slowly I gained a deep understanding of myself, and of women. My goal was to be 'naturally' good at attracting women. I never went out and 'sarged' or approached 50 girls in a day, or wrote a field report. But what I did do was start applying and trying the knowledge I learned in my everyday life. I didn't have to TRY really, it just happened naturally. I couldn't help but start doing the right things when I knew so much. Slowly but surely my faulty actions started to disappear, and were replaced with new actions. Due to all my reading, I started to see women differently. I started to see the world differently. I started to see myself differently. Therefore I started to behave differently. I couldn't help but improve.

So I would recommend studying as much as you can, and start incorporating what you learn into your everyday life. All the answers you're looking for are here. You'll find that it's really not about finding the right things to say, or the right techniques to use. It's really not even about women. It's all about you. I've learned so much here, and I'm so thankful that I stumbled upon this place. It has completely changed my life, and it has helped me start to become the 'man of my dreams'. I think if you can become the man of your dreams, you'll automatically be the man of her dreams as well. And then you'll need to start carrying a stick around with you to keep the women at bay.

Good Luck.

 

[cool dude]

haha yea I realize that it is all about me and I shouldn't let myself get caught in this net of social acceptance.I also realize people are a lot friendlier when I am in a great mood and I just want to have fun meeting people.I thought I was cured of my old ways of thinking so one night I went out to meet people and I started to realize that I had my old thoughts in my head.Like worrying about people liking me and what to say.I sort of felt like I just wasn't in the mood to talk to people,but then I felt like if I had a friend with me I would have been all exciting and happy and it wouldn't have been a problem to talk to anyone.The good thing is was that the thoughts weren't as bad as old times and I didn't let them control me.I still went up to people and talk to them even though I knew that they were not really interested because my mindset ruined it,like my energy went out to them and they felt it.I also said hello to everyone that passed by.

 

[Kevin Feng]

Hey buddy,

Sounds like a pretty rock solid plan, that's what we did, but on national TV. Honestly, if you're just starting out, feel free to "experiment".

The first two months, I like to say, are the experimental stages. Take Mystery's Newbie Mission, open 10 sets night a night for 3-4 nights out of the week.

You'd be surprised how easy it is to actually get a girls number.

In anycase, yes, get one or two openers and do your best to "free ball" it for the first month or two, at which point you can start implementing DHV stories, etc.

-Kevin