"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Question about this strange situation.

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I'm still a novice DJ, but I'm glad to say that I'm better w/ girls than most of my pvssy friends. However, there's this one girl who's a grade below me, who is scared of boys or something. She's pretty, a bit too skinny for my usual tastes, but decent, but her frigidity turns me on. It's like wanting what you can't have, and since no one can have her, since she's probably a closet lesbian, it only increases my drive.

I don't see her much during the day, but I've made the most of when I do see her. The problem is, she's so silent and stern that it's hard to get a convo going. It's not hard to start one, because if I'm good at anything, it's good convo; it's just hard to pin her down, since she likes to be nerdy and not stop in the halls.

So, my question is this. Should I just next her, or keep cracking her walls down so she'll stop being so anti-male and start touching my w@ng? It's a bit pitiful when she sits at a school dance and stares vacantly at the dance floor, turning down all the AFCs who keep trying to hit on her. I feel like a girl with potential is being wasted.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dude, I can see by ur writing that u can get a hot girl. So just hangout with chiks and forget about her, but do not ignore her or anything, next tiume u see her, ask her if she wants to go somewhere, or were u can get to know each other better.. And if she sees u with hot chiks all around u, she probably will be more open to u, as she will see u a challenge. Good luck
 

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shydude said:
Dude, I can see by ur writing that u can get a hot girl. So just hangout with chiks and forget about her, but do not ignore her or anything, next tiume u see her, ask her if she wants to go somewhere, or were u can get to know each other better.. And if she sees u with hot chiks all around u, she probably will be more open to u, as she will see u a challenge. Good luck
It sounds like shes really shy to me. And if thats the case being a challenge wont help, it will just imtimidate her. Smile, say hi until shes comfortable enough to greet you first. If she doesnt its probably a waste of your time.
 

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Well, I don't know why, but shy girls just keep magnetizing me... Back then, AFC times, I dealt with some girls kinda like that (I just messed everything up, due to my AFCness). I've been thinking about stuff like this, because I'm in a situation kinda similar to your.

So, if of any help, my advises:
->Start slow.
If you just pop up, out of the blue, she will just be freaked out. You to begin with the "good morning/hi" stuff... Then, grow up the convos, and talk about her interests and stuff.

->Beware
Since many shy girls are... well, shy, you can't evaluate her peersonality very well, and so, you won't really know when you're offending her or not. So, learn about her, so that you don't mess this up.

->Be patient
Patience is a must. Shy girls' defenses are hard to defeat, so you'll have to do it little by little.

If she really don't show any interest of all, after some time... well, just keep treating her like you'll do with someone else, and search another girl.

My thoughts on the subject.
 
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