"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Question about this girl I had sex with.

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I had sex with a 21 year old last week whom I met about a month ago. I didn't think she was interested, but surprisingly called me out of the blue asking me what I was doing that night. She came over my apartment, chilled for a while and had sex. She casually mentions during our time together that I can come over her place and that her parents don't care if she has guys over.

I'm probably making this more difficult than it is, but should I call her or wait for her to call me? I think that I already know the answer, but I'm always unsure when it comes to these situations. If I do call, what should I say?


One more question. Since I just recently started hooking up with girls, I'm slightly behind on how sex affects relationships. Do most girls rather **** a guy that ****s them without any extra bullsh*t, or do girls still prefer a guy to call and keep in contact if they're ****ing?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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razkay said:
I had sex with a 21 year old last week whom I met about a month ago. I didn't think she was interested, but surprisingly called me out of the blue asking me what I was doing that night. She came over my apartment, chilled for a while and had sex. She casually mentions during our time together that I can come over her place and that her parents don't care if she has guys over.

I'm probably making this more difficult than it is, but should I call her or wait for her to call me? I think that I already know the answer, but I'm always unsure when it comes to these situations. If I do call, what should I say?


One more question. Since I just recently started hooking up with girls, I'm slightly behind on how sex affects relationships. Do most girls rather **** a guy that ****s them without any extra bullsh*t, or do girls still prefer a guy to call and keep in contact if they're ****ing?
Before I answer questions this all depends on your age. How old are you? How many girls have you slept with?

(Im not trying to make fun of you...i just need this information to help you)
 

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25 years old

I actually slept with more than twenty girls, but most were one night stands. I didn't have the skills to keep girls coming back for more. I slept with two girls that I actually dated for a period of time. I never been in a long term relationship.
 

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Ok so youre looking to keep it up with her? Well heres a tip: Act like sex is no big deal.

Everyone does it, everyone wants it. She basically gave you the green light to take charge of the relationship. Since you are older, its your duty. You seem like you have plenty of experience, dont worry.

Call her when you want to meet up. She says you can go to her place then do it.

Most girls want sex the same, if not more than you. Just act like shes your friend. You wouldnt cut off all contact with a friend would you? No, you would call a friend to hang out everyonce in a while. Oh, and you and this friend just happen to have sex whenever you see eachother...

Make sense? Dont over think it. She likes you. A lot. Keep talking to her.
 

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razkay said:
I had sex with a 21 year old last week whom I met about a month ago. I didn't think she was interested, but surprisingly called me out of the blue asking me what I was doing that night. She came over my apartment, chilled for a while and had sex. She casually mentions during our time together that I can come over her place and that her parents don't care if she has guys over.

I'm probably making this more difficult than it is, but should I call her or wait for her to call me? I think that I already know the answer, but I'm always unsure when it comes to these situations. If I do call, what should I say?

What do you mean "if I call, what do I say?"

"Hi Jennifer, how are you? Would you like salsa dancing tonight? I know this great club where the DJ is a friend of mine."

Just because you had sex with her doesn't change the way you should act. You have to let things flow the way they did before the sex.


One more question. Since I just recently started hooking up with girls, I'm slightly behind on how sex affects relationships. Do most girls rather **** a guy that ****s them without any extra bullsh*t, or do girls still prefer a guy to call and keep in contact if they're ****ing?
There are no hard and fast rules. Sex affects relationships if you let it affect your relationship. If you make it a big deal, it will be a big deal. If you treat her like the way you did to get the sex, you'll be fine.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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