question about staying mysterious

[unistork]

You know when you meet women they start asking you questions about yourself like what school did you go too, what are your hobbies, etc. just questions about YOU and guys usually answer them so they aren't staying mysterious and they are telling her everything she askes.

What is a good way around these like when you meet a girl and she starts asknig a bunch of questions how do you stay mysterious?

 

[frivolousz21]

Personally i think that is highly over-rated.

if you have a upbeat out going personality with confidence..this mysterious bull**** may not be for you.

sometimes AFC guys think they need to go to the mysterious thing because they are to afraid to open up and take control of the converstaion....there is a thing called ****Y AND FUNNY!

and when u are..you ussually talk more than she does..I always talk 60 to 70 percent of the time..and I still get the girl

 

[dearsappho]

Dont answer them...go round the houses, but never answer the questions directly...

 

[Jay-X]

imo, being mysterious works but not the way people often describes it... i mean, in high school ur mysterious when everyone knows who you are but a few know HOW you are (this is the reason of famous guys' popularity)... when ur mood waves and so your behavior... dunno if i explained myself

 

[Wyldfire]

The whole "be mysterious" thing is silly. It's another case of you guys making things far more complicated than it is. It isn't "mystery" that keeps someone interested in you. It's being a bit unpredictible and keeping the other person on their toes. It's ridiculous to not let the person you date or get involved with to get to know you, especially for those seeking a potential LTR. If you don't get to know each other your relationship will never move beyond a surface involvement and the woman will eventually become very dissatisfied and leave.

Just mix things up now and then with surprises (no, not gifts) and keep her guessing about what you might do or say next. That keeps the mental stimulation and challenge alive, which holds the other person's interest. While doing that you also have to let her feel close to you and if you pull the "be mysterious" crap she's never going to feel genuinely close to you and she won't ever develop REAL feelings for you.

 

[frivolousz21]

wyldifre that was PIMP

 

[MrCode]

Overall I think Wyldfire is on point but it can keep things more interesting if you occasionally pull out a ****y and funny answer for one of the usual "interview" type questions.

Like the example of "What do you do?" being responded with "I'm an ass model" or other C&F material. Obviously you need to be congruent in your C&F to pull this off well.

The more a girl is interested the more she will want to know about you, and while you should maintain some mystery (and be unpredictable like Wyldfire says), you definitely need to give the poor girl a few bones here and there.

 

[Interpol]

Wyldfire is pretty much right...Being mysterious doesn't mean hiding your interests or basic facts about your life. It means not letting a girl know exactly what your intentions are, what your opinion of her is, what you're going to do next, etc.

I've seen some people on this forum say that when a girl asks you where you live or what your job is, you should only give her joke answers and not let her know the truth. This is fine for the first date, by the second date she's just gonna think you have something to hide. That's not attractive, it's creepy.