"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Question about spinning plates...

gonnamakeachange

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What exactly is spinning plates? Is that having sex with other girls, or as simple as approaching other women?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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drak_ool

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Technically spinning plates is more than having sex with multiple women and way more than simply approaching lots of women. It means you have a steady supply of girls you can f.uck at any given time ("plates"). Some push it as far as making it clear to the girls that they are seeing others at the same time, some simply make it clear to the girls that they are not in an exclusive relationship. If you make one girl think you 2 are exclusive, but you are in fact hooking up on a regular basis with other chicks, I would be inclined to call that simply cheating, not spinning plates. At least to me spinning plates is a DJ thing, while cheating is low class behavior (that I've engaged in a times too, I ll admit it)

Of course everyone should do what they feel like and not get too bogged down trying to fit a stereotype. In the end you should be doing what feels right for you, whether that means dating multiple women, approaching multiple women, or just flirting with multiple women (or cheating on your gf).
 

DavenJuan

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gonnamakeachange said:
What exactly is spinning plates? Is that having sex with other girls, or as simple as approaching other women?
Rollo can give you the "specifics" to his meaning..

the replies are right in the explanation..

however, "spinning plates" is more than simply dating/seeing other women.

its PURPOSE is to keep your options open. when you have different options, you arent subject to oneitis,keeps you busy, and keeps you diverse.

"dont keep all your eggs in one basket"

not only that, but it demonstrates high value. not being readily available because you have other things to do and places to be.

so yes, it does mean seeing mutliple women. but the meaning and purpose of spinning plates is more than just the women
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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donjuanapprentice01

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The "spinning plate" theory is great... but I have a big problem with it.. I can't even get one plate to spin!
 

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I personally love it, before I knew about the DJ world, Id just focus on one girl and end up being disappointed, because things wouldnt work out or she just turn into a super b****. Now fast forward a year a girl who was high up on my list just disappeared hasnt returned a email,text or picked up the phone when i tried to call, if it was last year Id turn all AFC and depressed, but i simply focused my attention on the others and found more.

my advice: DO IT! 5 is a solid number. I currently got 3 good ones and a few just starting up.
 

Kal0051

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donjuanapprentice01 said:
The "spinning plate" theory is great... but I have a big problem with it.. I can't even get one plate to spin!
lol, yeah that's a problem. I used to be like you (mind you this was in high school) so I know your pain.
 
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