Question About Sexual LawSuits

[Gerard-890]

Hey guys I've been reading around the Sosuave forum for a while, I wanted to join up and start a thread on a "Fear" that I have.

My situation is that I'm not the typical guy, I really haven't had much problems obtaining "sex" from women, my personality is pretty much open and charming and I really find myself being the LIFE of the group and women and sex just aren't hard to obtain.

But guys what I don't have is a "Friend," and this is scaring me. It's like, the women have sex with me and are sexually attracted to me "under the surface" but really not in the open to a point where I can have a "Girl-Friend" of some sorts.

I am afraid of a woman going and saying, "He raped me" or "He sexually assaulted me" and this is my fear because it's just very strange, the women and I have sex and I don't have a problem with that...but you know how it feels when you can TELL someone just isn't your friend? Someone just doesn't have your back? I feel like my personality makes people "feel good for the moment" and that gets me sex, but I haven't really gained the person, and I guess My biggest fear is waking up one day and having a chick make up something to say I sexually assaulted her, then who is going to stand up and say I didn't do it? She'll have witnesses saying I am very sexual and they had sex with me too.

This might some funny to you guys, but when a woman goes downtown and opens up one of these cases, whether you are guilty or not you still go to jail. Then the evidence that the judge and the rest of the people use to DETERMINE if you are guilty or not is really missed up because they are going to ask other people, look at your past, etc., all of things that have nothing to do with the actual incident. So it's very easy to be framed.

Sorry if I rambled.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I make it a point to "feel out" the vibe with a girl before engaging in any type of sexual activity. I mean there could just be a sexual attraction and you two go for it, but it's hard to describe. You can tell how a woman is by the way she carries herself and the people she interacts with. You can read her attitude as far as thinking she might be trustworthy enough, as far as having a mutual good time goes.

I wouldn't suggest getting with chicks who seem like they have BPD or aggressive attitudes. It's always good to ask questions about how they feel about men and sexuality as a whole. I make it a point to be their "friend" first to see if we can get along. I've been involved with girls I didn't get along with in the past but had physical relations, but it's never a good idea.

 

[Phyzzle]

Have you ever been with a woman who starts to complain that every guy she's ever been involved with has treated her horribly and abused her? In this case, I'd say the fear is justified. Who knows how crazy she is or what imagined slight might set her off. If these are the kinds of signals you're getting, then look out.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Yeah that's exactly what I'm talking about, Phyzzle! I've encountered that many times and when that happens I automatically shut down and move on.

I don't suggest anyone ever settle or shack up with a self professed mental case.

 

[Gerard-890]

Thunder and Phyzzle thanks. My fear is that what if the girl is ok, and doesn't have any mental issues.

I mean I'm just a little scared because, if they just make up something I have no one who will be a "witness" for me and it's really like (besides having a video tape) how can I really say I didn't rape her, harass her, etc.

I have no intentions of doing anything wrong to women, I'm just afraid becaue if this happens what can I do?

 

[WaterTiger]

Make it all public knowledge!
*If you pick up a girl, TELL YOUR BUDDIES that you and the chick are off to do the horizontal tango!

*Make sure SHE understands your expectations of sex before you leave the bar/club.

I don't think it's a common enough occurance for you to be very worried about. Look at all the sexually active men on this site! There has been only one or two episodes that I can recall where the girl made trouble.

If it feels...suspicious...then DO NOT go home with the girl.

 

[Gerard-890]

Thanks guys. I'm sorry but I am still a little weary, let me explain.

I'm a business consultant and am thinking about moving abroad (givng up US citizenship) because of all of the frivolous lawsuits I have been involved in, even with some me having to give up cash.

I have asset protection, offshore accounts, but being a US citizen it's against the law to not report all of my income. So now, I keep having these dumb as lawsuits.

Okay, but that's on the business side, I've found a way to counter those.

But on the personal side, again I don't have problems getting sex, but have you guys noticed the Sex Laws? If a woman out of the blue just WANTS to say I sexually harassed or assaulted her, I am automatically (according to US laws) going to be prosectured and taken to jail until proven innocent.

The problem is, how do I counter this? It's not enough to say "if the girl seems crazy to watch out" I'm NOT worried about the crazy ones I'm worried about the "appearly sane ones." See, it's the sane girls that's "ok" that actually WIN cases like these, the first thing the judge says is, "Why would she lie?" And HOW am I supposed to prove she didn't?

I know another questions you guys think of is, why would any woman (sane) do that? Well, I don't know, but it's been done to a buddy of mine and I'm scared okay. And I know I sound completely nuts to you guys, but if you actually thought about it, you guys might be a little worried too, your girl at ANY TIME can say you raped or sexually assaulted her, and the judge can find you guilty of something you didn't do.

 

[Gerard-890]

Guys anymore suggestions?

Thanks

 

[Luveno]

I can say that it is probably important that if you are going to have sex with a girl that you use your own condoms, and flush it immediately after use.

There have been reports of women sabotaging condoms or impregnating themselves with discarded condoms.

There are also precedents set by cases such as Louisiana v. Frisard that state that this unilateral impregnation still puts the man at liability for child support etc.

 

[Gerard-890]

Guys anymore suggestions on this topic?

 

[ketostix]

I thought I would insert a humorous video on the topic. There's so much truth in it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JhZTR6w-FTM

 

[Gerard-890]

Mature guys, I would like to get more creative ideas on how to deal with this situation. I know it's far-fetched but if you guys have ever had someone lie on you in court and a judge side with them, you will know what I'm talking about.

Any more ideas on dealing with this? It's an "easy-win" when the chick in question is a known nut case, I'm not talking about those women.

I'm thinking a woman (on a make sense level) would do something like this in a way to get revenge against men because maybe she's tired of being used for sex or maybe she's a feminist, I don't know. I've just seen and heard of these things occurring all the time and innocent guys have their reputations and lifestyles damaged because of it.

I would really like to hear more from you guys on this issue, seriously.

 

[Gerard-890]

Hello?? Guys I posted this topic in the Mature section because I really wanted to get information on ways to deal with a situation like this if it came up.

Can someone offer me some information please?

Any woman can do this at anytime to ANY ONE OF YOU, and the question is what can you do about it? To be a man and have a woman saying you sexually assaulted her (where proven innocent or not), you are going to go through hell and no matter how the outcome is, you WILL go to jail upon her making the complaint.

I'm afraid because I have broken a lot of women's hearts, I have had some be "in love" with me and I just dumped them. I'm afraid they will do something like this to get revenge and I would like to know what I can do about it.

It's amazing how you guys would skip over a topic like this, don't you know this effects you also? At anytime it can happen to you.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Hello?? Guys I posted this topic in the Mature section because I really wanted to get information on ways to deal with a situation like this if it came up.

Can someone offer me some information please?

Gerard, what do you want to hear? Yes, this can happen...and yes there really isn't anything us guys can do about it. It really is what it is, we can't change the fact that a woman can have an emotional outburst and file false charges, and turn our lives upside-down. Women actually do have a lot of fvcking power when it comes to this type of thing. They are victims from the get-go.

All you can do is be aware of what type of woman you bring home. Don't mention your money, and as already posted, trust your gut.

Also, don't piss her off.

I don't worry about this because I think I'm at a point where I can tell if a woman is 'really' into me. I focus on high IL, and don't push the boundaries too much. Yes, I'm sure I've lost chances at many women this way, but at least I lessen my chances of being arrested because of a mood swing.

Just use common sense on this one man, and try not to worry. Thankfully, most women would never do anything like this.