Okay. I will be the first to say that I am writing this partially to get a bit of comfort.
When girls break up and get into a new relationship we sometimes tell ourselves that it is a rebound. She really doesn't like the guy but is trying to get over her feeling of hurt or loss. Or make you jealous. Etc Etc. This what I want to belevie. To reassure that the time I spent with her wasn't meaningless. But I am reminded from relationship to relationship that maybe it was. Case in point.
Last relationship girl had me waiting five months. We ended it. She didnt want a boyfriend title. We "break up". She meets a guy and in two months he is her boyfriend and is "heaven sent". He holds her hand in public and opens doors adn not afraid to call her his lady. She tells me in email correspondence.
Relationship before that. Girl was acting kinda clingy. I didnt want to do the public affection thing. Guy calls her phone and she picks up. I tell her I dont appreciate her spending time with this guy. She tells me he is just a friend and can never date him as he is a good friend of her ex. She ignores my wishes so I ignore her. Knowing something might be going on. 2 weeks no contact she puts on Facebook she is "in a relationship". She is still in the relationship and its a year later. I know I can get her but I dont want it. Been there done that. And she put on weight..lol. She cheated on her ex with me so I knew better not to get feelings attached to this one.
3rd one. This is a dosey. Was with this girl for 5 years. She loved me. Even asked me to marry her. I said I wasn't ready. She asked for space. We would meet from time to time. Went out to dinner. Then after 3 weeks I tell her how I feel. That out of all the girls she treated me the best. And she tells me she met someone and its serious. 3 WEEKS!!!! Then on facebook I saw the statuses of "I love yous" and "what can be sweeter than that kind hearted smile". Talking about kisses. And I am her friend on facebook so she knows I would see. I put up a pic of me with a fine girl at Carnival and she changes her status to "in a relationship" the next day. They are engaged to be married or probably married right now. 3 weeks and in love. I gave her five years.
Sorry for the rant. But I dont know if a rebound is a bad thing. I guess people can foster serious relatinships "on the rebound". Also I wasn't the perfect guy and always had more than one chick on the go. But just goes to show.
When girls break up and get into a new relationship we sometimes tell ourselves that it is a rebound. She really doesn't like the guy but is trying to get over her feeling of hurt or loss. Or make you jealous. Etc Etc. This what I want to belevie. To reassure that the time I spent with her wasn't meaningless. But I am reminded from relationship to relationship that maybe it was. Case in point.
Last relationship girl had me waiting five months. We ended it. She didnt want a boyfriend title. We "break up". She meets a guy and in two months he is her boyfriend and is "heaven sent". He holds her hand in public and opens doors adn not afraid to call her his lady. She tells me in email correspondence.
Relationship before that. Girl was acting kinda clingy. I didnt want to do the public affection thing. Guy calls her phone and she picks up. I tell her I dont appreciate her spending time with this guy. She tells me he is just a friend and can never date him as he is a good friend of her ex. She ignores my wishes so I ignore her. Knowing something might be going on. 2 weeks no contact she puts on Facebook she is "in a relationship". She is still in the relationship and its a year later. I know I can get her but I dont want it. Been there done that. And she put on weight..lol. She cheated on her ex with me so I knew better not to get feelings attached to this one.
3rd one. This is a dosey. Was with this girl for 5 years. She loved me. Even asked me to marry her. I said I wasn't ready. She asked for space. We would meet from time to time. Went out to dinner. Then after 3 weeks I tell her how I feel. That out of all the girls she treated me the best. And she tells me she met someone and its serious. 3 WEEKS!!!! Then on facebook I saw the statuses of "I love yous" and "what can be sweeter than that kind hearted smile". Talking about kisses. And I am her friend on facebook so she knows I would see. I put up a pic of me with a fine girl at Carnival and she changes her status to "in a relationship" the next day. They are engaged to be married or probably married right now. 3 weeks and in love. I gave her five years.
Sorry for the rant. But I dont know if a rebound is a bad thing. I guess people can foster serious relatinships "on the rebound". Also I wasn't the perfect guy and always had more than one chick on the go. But just goes to show.