"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Question about phone calls & gifts?

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1) If your girl has been calling 7 times a day for the past 3 months...How do you reduce it to say 2 times a week w/o her flipping out? How can I turn my situation around & get on the Doc Love plan where I call her once a week to set up a date and see her once a week. 1 call, 1 date a week...how to back peddle.....


2) What would be an appropriate b-day gift to give someone who you have been talking to for about 3 months....

Is a dinner, comedy show and gift card to her favorite mall outlet...too much...

I appreciate any comments..Thank you...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Stop answering the phone and explain if she keeps calling you they'll be nothing to talk about on the date. Do this gradually over a couple of weeks so it doesn't look too obvious.
If she still doesnt get the message, drop her.


'talking to' - You mean dating right?

After 3 months I'd get her a funny card and take her out to dinner.
 
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