"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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question about party etiquette

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newandimproved101

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i'm usually the guy who goes to these things and seeks out a few people i already know and then cling to them for the rest of the night

but no more! i dont know anyone at this party

so how do i approach this? i just want practice at socialising, and a few numbers here and there is bonus. so do i just walk up to people who will no doubt be broken up into groups, interupt the conversation (?) and introduce myself? do i try hijacking the conversation?

or maybe i should try to join in the conversation, then when there's a lull introduce myself??

i've got no idea!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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just get drunk dude
 
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xenten

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I feel the same way. The only thing I can come up with is get drunk like rocksoff said. I went into this party last Friday only knowing one person there, I got drunk then had a hell of a time.
 
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dereklovesugly

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Just be social. If your friends know people in another group of friends have them intermingle with the other group. If not just join their conversation if you have some input.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ENIGMA16

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People are at a party to socialize with people they don't know. What's so hard about going up to someone and saying "Hi I'm _____." ??
 
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