"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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question about party etiquette

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newandimproved101

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i'm usually the guy who goes to these things and seeks out a few people i already know and then cling to them for the rest of the night

but no more! i dont know anyone at this party

so how do i approach this? i just want practice at socialising, and a few numbers here and there is bonus. so do i just walk up to people who will no doubt be broken up into groups, interupt the conversation (?) and introduce myself? do i try hijacking the conversation?

or maybe i should try to join in the conversation, then when there's a lull introduce myself??

i've got no idea!!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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rocksoff

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just get drunk dude
 
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xenten

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I feel the same way. The only thing I can come up with is get drunk like rocksoff said. I went into this party last Friday only knowing one person there, I got drunk then had a hell of a time.
 
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dereklovesugly

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Just be social. If your friends know people in another group of friends have them intermingle with the other group. If not just join their conversation if you have some input.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ENIGMA16

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People are at a party to socialize with people they don't know. What's so hard about going up to someone and saying "Hi I'm _____." ??
 
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