"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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white sox bill

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Hey Guys,
I've NEVER tried online dating but have finally had it with all the flakes in my area. My concern is that I live in a small town and really don't want all my neighboors to know I joined one. Can anyone here recommend one that is set up so I DON'T have to give any info regarding where I live or who I am? Maybe set one of the fields well off my area, say 50 miles away with the thought that anyone who's nosing around would never think of loking 50 miles from my hometown?

I realize that would leave out a certain amount of women in my locality, so be it. Does anyone else have anxieties about this? Does that "He's desperate" stigma still apply? I'm just a 60 hour a week workaholic whos had it with area women and don't have the time to go out looking all the time. Thanks!!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by white sox bill
Does anyone else have anxieties about this? Does that "He's desperate" stigma still apply?
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Well.. this type of anxiety is common when you first try it. After a while you realize what the heck if sombody saw me online, that means that sombody is teh same boat with me: dating online.
So it is actually not a big deal.

What you can do.. is to look at lavalife.com: you can post pics but leave them hiddedn. When you contact sombody you will send her a permission to see your pics. Very simple idea.
But I personally find lavalife a bit pricy: you gotta pay $1.8 to communicate with a girl.
 
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Lucy in the sky with diamonds!

Dear sir

My first impression is that you are looking for a pie in the sky. What is the matter with the women in your locality? Are your expectations realist? Why don't you want to specify your hometown? If you want to remain anonymous at the beginning use a nickname.

Sure you can try an online matchmaking site. Try perfectmatch.com in the US.

Good luck sir
 
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Why do you care what your hick neighbors think? Doesn't even matter.

Heck, use Hotornot.com. I find that's the best online dating site. You get pictures and thats it. No crap, no huge profile. Just a pic and a yes/no.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Search the forum for online dating. There's myriads of posts about the subject. Also there a few articles in the archive that will be helpful.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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what area do you live around?
whats the closest big city?
 
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