question about mixed race

[duttylove]

this is not intended as racism or anything. i am half black half white but act niether just some where in the middle. im just wondering for any other mixed race people out there. so you act (by act i dont mean it is an act) more of one race than the other? if so why and which.

i dont act black because i grew up in white neighbor hoods and i dont act white because i dont look white.

the reason i ask is because different races have to use a different approach on there game and i am interested to know.

 

[Freeman]

Originally posted by duttylove
this is not intended as racism or anything. i am half black half white but act niether just some where in the middle. im just wondering for any other mixed race people out there. so you act (by act i dont mean it is an act) more of one race than the other? if so why and which.

i dont act black because i grew up in white neighbor hoods and i dont act white because i dont look white.

the reason i ask is because different races have to use a different approach on there game and i am interested to know.

See? This is the problem with society today. A person is taught from a young age to pick a side, BLACK or WHITE, when this shouldn't be an issue. Game is game my friend whether its coming from the mouth of a white man or a black man its all about how you talk not what you look like..I've dated chicks from many races, not once did I have to "adjust" myself to get it on with some girl that wasn't of my own race..If your game is good a female will be responsive to that game, PERIOD.

 

[darth yoda]

Re: Re: question about mixed race

Originally posted by Freeman
See? This is the problem with society today. A person is taught from a young age to pick a side, BLACK or WHITE, when this shouldn't be an issue. Game is game my friend whether its coming from the mouth of a white man or a black man its all about how you talk not what you look like..I've dated chicks from many races, not once did I have to "adjust" myself to get it on with some girl that wasn't of my own race..If your game is good a female will be responsive to that game, PERIOD.

Echo that statement, I do.

Perhaps you should define what "acting black/white is", duttylove. Perhaps stereotypes you speak of.

Be yourself.

 

[Nightspark]

interesting how a topic on mixed race has poured out a nice and simple message that seems to have become lost in my time here @ the SOSUAVE

Just be yourself and never adjust!

Amen darth yoda and Freeman

Godspeed
-Nightspark

 

[spider_007]

no need to be "white" or "black". BE A MAN.

BE YOUR MANLY SELF

 

[Lost In the Seas]

what race you are doesn't affect the game, but the race of the women does on some occasions, difference races, asians, mostly, have different set of moral and society culture than the western, chances are being C & F, teasing and all the routine DJ stuff don't work on a newly came chinese chick to amierca, dispite the language barrier.

 

[Don of Truth]

Originally posted by duttylove
this is not intended as racism or anything. i am half black half white but act niether just some where in the middle. im just wondering for any other mixed race people out there. so you act (by act i dont mean it is an act) more of one race than the other? if so why and which.

i dont act black because i grew up in white neighbor hoods and i dont act white because i dont look white.

the reason i ask is because different races have to use a different approach on there game and i am interested to know.

I don't think you HAVE to act any certain way because of your race to pick up girls. Granted, it will affect what kind of girls you pick up.
Some will tell you that you might be bordering on stereotypes but the reason there are such things as stereotypes is because they are born out of truth, so no big deal to me if you come across that way.
I'm well aware fo the fact that mixed race people feel out of place since they don't fully "belong" to either side. I've talked about this with a few and most seem to confirm a struggle or some stress associated with this. What I would suggest is that you just act the way you find most comfortable. I see many mixed people sort of fuse the best of both races and take on that persona.

 

[Freeman]

Something I came across that i thought would be good to post

"That until the philosophy which holds one race superior and another inferior is finally and permanently discredited and abandoned: That until there are no longer first-class and second class citizens of any nation; That until the color of a man's skin is of no more significance than the color of his eyes; That until the basic human rights are equally guaranteed to all without regard to race; That until that day, the dream of lasting peace and world citizenship and the rule of international morality will remain but a fleeting illusion, to be pursued but never attained." – Haile Selassie

 

[So Many Ways]

I wonder how comfortable you are in your own skin.

My experience is a little different than yours but I still had to deal with the whole identity crisis but that now only affects your game, but other aspects of your life.

I'm black and I grew up in an all white neighborhood in Orange County so you can imagine what that did to how I act, talk etc. Needless to say, I was never comfortable in my own skin and I had all kinds of limiting beliefs regarding women such as women all want thugs and hoodlums, etc.

It wasn't until recently, actually late last year that I realized what the problem was. I was never comfortable with who I was. I was always trying to compensate and then I would wear the mask and code switch, acting one way around one group of people and switching up around another group, call it "acting white" or "acting black", whatever. It wasn't until I accepted who it is I really was that things started to change.

I was determined to be myself and act in a matter that made me feel comfortable and yes things did change, women did become more responsive. I also forced myself to rid myself of useless limiting beliefs.

My point is, be comfortable with who you are and be comfortable in your own skin, and don't let the outside world define who you are.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Re: Re: question about mixed race

Originally posted by Freeman
See? This is the problem with society today. A person is taught from a young age to pick a side, BLACK or WHITE, when this shouldn't be an issue. Game is game my friend whether its coming from the mouth of a white man or a black man its all about how you talk not what you look like..I've dated chicks from many races, not once did I have to "adjust" myself to get it on with some girl that wasn't of my own race..If your game is good a female will be responsive to that game, PERIOD.

It's just easier to conform to a stereotype than to set your own style and be unique.

 

[Don of Truth]

Re: Re: question about mixed race

Originally posted by Freeman
See? This is the problem with society today. A person is taught from a young age to pick a side, BLACK or WHITE, when this shouldn't be an issue. Game is game my friend whether its coming from the mouth of a white man or a black man its all about how you talk not what you look like..I've dated chicks from many races, not once did I have to "adjust" myself to get it on with some girl that wasn't of my own race..If your game is good a female will be responsive to that game, PERIOD.

Society may exacerbate what you are saying but it does not "teach" it. The foundation is instinct and human nature. Even if society didn't promote certain behaviors humans would still pick sides and congregate with those similar to themselves. Granted in no case can you say "all people" do this or act a certain way because that is a statistical improbabilty in human behavior. But, the majority of masses feel comfortable falling into group behaviors and mimmicking them. A few will pave their own path as it seams you may have done.

 

[cinephile]

Also being of mixed race, I understand your dilema. While certain close minded individuals will always view you in that context, you do not need to be limited by them. What I recomend is to use both cultures and to not reject either. Those interested in you will be facinated by your ability to stand between both. Use it to your advantage and you will go far.

The harder the struggle, the greater the victory.

 

[Mr. Mystery II]

Originally posted by cinephile
Also being of mixed race, I understand your dilema. While certain close minded individuals will always view you in that context, you do not need to be limited by them. What I recomend is to use both cultures and to not reject either. Those interested in you will be facinated by your ability to stand between both. Use it to your advantage and you will go far.

The harder the struggle, the greater the victory.

Well said.

I'm 100% white but I grew up in a black neighborhood and while I don't look or act "thuggish" anymore, though I still have a hint of it in my lingo, I can't identify with any race or culture. It gets too me sometimes too, lately especially, because my best friends growing up are all starting to identify and hang out with their culture, and while I'm always welcome to join them, which is great because I get to learn to appreciate many cultures, they never accept any invitations I give them to do this or that, because they are not interested in anything but their particular cultural niche.

I'm in my early 20's, and I suspect alot of this is just normal. People grow up and try to find their place in the world, and we all want to be accepted. But there are people out there that defy sterotypical defenition and those people either thrive wildly, or fail miserably.

My advice, be friendly and you will come across people that have things in common with you. But also try and at least keep in touch with the people you grew up with, those are the people that will be there for you and keep you grounded.

Mr. Mystery