Question about kids....

[baseballfan]

I posted something similar in the main discussion forum a while back, but I didnt really get the type of response I was looking for. Long story short, My marriage of nearly 9 years broke up about 9 months ago, leaving me with two small children who live with me most of the time.

My question to you guys is, is it better to mention them in passing early on after meeting a girl? Or is it better to wait? and if wait, how long?

I've been told by some female friends that having kids live with you is a turn-on. But in my, as yet, limited experience, I'm not sure that's the case. I've had a few women seem to become less interested once they are brought up. Though, that could have been just my lack of game, I'm not sure.

So you know, I'm not talking about the girl and the kids MEETING, Im just wondering if I should hold back from mentioning them till she gets to know me a little, or if I should be up front about them.

Thanks.

 

[frivolousz21]

tell them you have kids....

being a reposible dad is what you should do...but in this society it shows your a man.


women instantly think repsonsable mature man...believe me..they dont look at it like baggage...maybe some do...but not in the way men look at women with kids

 

[Mr. Me]

I find that women will ask you such questions early on anyway, if they're interested in you. "Are you single?" "Do you have kids?" "How many?" That affords you the opportunity to answer.

Some women around your age may want to find a guy without kids, because they want to have a family of their own and don't want their man's attention and funds going to the other kids. Let them go.

Women may withhold information and get away with it, but guys... you'll come off like a liar if you hide info.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Mention them early. Either a girl will love it or she will run. I think drastically fewer women run from single parents than do men, but there's still no point in delaying.

 

[mrRuckus]

Mention them early. Either a girl will love it or she will run. I think drastically fewer women run from single parents than do men, but there's still no point in delaying.

cause the kids hardly ever live with the guy.

 

[joekerr31]

i agree. mention them.

NOTHING could possibily speak less of you than hiding (denying through omission) your own children.

you should project how PROUD you are of your children. how much you love them. etc. if you do that then most women will fall head over heels for you.

never run from your life, always embrace it.

the only exception to this would be if you are just hooking up for a one night stand.

 

[joekerr31]

oh and the other thing to be careful of (which you obviously are because you posted here for advice).... be careful of taking advice from yoru female friends.

women may believe what they are telling you, but its rarely ever what actually goes on in the real world.

btw, some women will cut loose from you cuz you have kids. and thats ok. they aren't the ones you want.

 

[baseballfan]

Cool. Thanks guys, that's the direction I was leaning towards, I was mostly looking for a reality check. I'll make sure that I don't hide their existence.

 

[Latinoman]

Most women won't find it "hot". But that's irrelevant...you are a Man. And a Man with character will never hide the fact they have children. Women will ask you anyway (the ones with an interest in you).