Question about girl, and her friends experiences.

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Alright, I've been dating my girl for 6 mos. everything is going pretty well, and she treats me very very well. However, every once in a while she'll mention her friends, or old friends that got married/had a baby. They all have some wild ass stories. For instance, every 1 of her friends has been in a threesome, and i even brought it up to her and asked, if she had ever been in one. She said no. Every one of her friends did hard drugs(cocaine,etc.) at one point as well. Almost every one of her friends has been in an interracial relationship. She has some friends that have slept with over 40 guys, one slept with over 275 guys.

Anyone have any experience of this, i mean your friends do all kinds of things, and you tell me you havent? she has told me she's done cocaine and exstacy a few times, other than that she makes out like she hasnt done anything else. Whats your guys view on this?

 

[slaog]

Big red flags there I'm afraid but we need more information.


Her friends sound like the lowest of the low so you have to ask yourself why are they her friends. Like attracts like. Are they really good friends or just people she grew up with and have not hung out with much?


When she told you of her friends behaviour what did you say? Did you lay tell her you don't like that sort of behaviour? Or did you just listen and say nothing?


Did she disagree with the behaviour of her friend or did she act like it was normal behaviour to her?

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

no i disagreed, i said i thought it was pretty trashy, but she defends them saying it was just an experience. Most of theese arent close friends, her closest friend isnt that bad, and actually classy. Yet theese other friends she used to hang out with before she met me. She told me about the girl with 275last nite, i didnt question why she was friends with them. Also this is another thing too. For some reason, the boyfriends of her friends, hate her. They really dislike her for some reason, and i ask her all the time, and she says she doesnt know why they dislike her.

 

[slaog]

no i disagreed, i said i thought it was pretty trashy, but she defends them saying it was just an experience. Most of theese arent close friends, her closest friend isnt that bad, and actually classy. Yet theese other friends she used to hang out with before she met me. She told me about the girl with 275last nite, i didnt question why she was friends with them. Also this is another thing too. For some reason, the boyfriends of her friends, hate her. They really dislike her for some reason, and i ask her all the time, and she says she doesnt know why they dislike her.

Ok so what does her closest friend get up to?


The problem there is her saying "it was just an experiance". Talk about a bad excuse. Serial killers could use that excuse too.


Because she defends her friends behaviour it says to me that she is either in denial and won't admit her friends are slvts or she has very low standards.


It's probably a positive that her friends' BF's dislike her. If they have GF's like that then your GF might not be trashy enough for them because they prefer women with no standards.


If I was you I'd make her realise how bad her friends behaviour is. If she would admit it's trashy behaviour then it's a step in the right direction.

 

[Telos]

She's lying to you. I'm sure she's done all sorts of crazy sh*t in her life, and there are likely some things that she just doesn't plan on telling you about any time soon. That's a fact of life when it comes to almost all attractive women. Aknowledge that she probably has a healthy amount of promiscuity but don't get paranoid over it. If you had a history of promiscuity and a mile-long list of sexual encounters, would you tell your girlfriend about that one time you had a threesome with a trio of brazilian supermodels in Rio? Especially if she was repeatedly asking you from a frame of concern?

No.

 

[Trajhenkhet01]

Ok so what does her closest friend get up to?


The problem there is her saying "it was just an experiance". Talk about a bad excuse. Serial killers could use that excuse too.


Because she defends her friends behaviour it says to me that she is either in denial and won't admit her friends are slvts or she has very low standards.


It's probably a positive that her friends' BF's dislike her. If they have GF's like that then your GF might not be trashy enough for them because they prefer women with no standards.


If I was you I'd make her realise how bad her friends behaviour is. If she would admit it's trashy behaviour then it's a step in the right direction.

She could be just defending her friend. Is there any other odd behavior she exhibits other than this? One red flag does not signal an army. You let her know at least how you feel about this behavior. Is she flaky? Does she do anything weird like snort real loud and rub her nose?

 

[Warrior74]

so interracial relationships are bad now?

 

[slickaz]

so interracial relationships are bad now?

I WAS WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO PICK THAT UP!

hahahahahahhahaa....

this is stupid..

regardless, heres my advice.

her past is her past, you cant change it.
so stop looking into what she did and focus on what she's doing and will do.

if she's honest and dont cheat on you then you got nothing to worry about.
if she has low standards and taps 300guys while you're with her, then you should leave.