"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Question About Getting The Phone#

onemorerobot

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Ok, so there's this girl that works at the same place as me. I've never really talked to her before but I've noticed her checking me out quite a bit recently. I'm going to ask her for her number the next time I see her. The thing is, if she gives it to me, should I wait a few days to call her? Just seems like it might be weird if I get her number and then I see her at work the next day. She might wonder why I haven't called?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Soprano

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yeah wait a while, if she asks just say you were busy or watching porn or something
 

Cruise

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So mechanical.

"Practicing the form without harnessing the power behind it."

Getting the phone number and waiting a few days is ONLY a technique to be used if you know your chances of meeting her again is nil.

Since you work with her... why not just take her out to lunch... you pay yours, she pays hers... no threats, no commitments, just more intimacy. THEN you ask for the number if you're planning on taking her out post-work hours.

Thing about dating co-workers is, because you see each other every day, you can really afford to just sprinkle bits and pieces of charm and game, then just refract from her on other days. i.e. get her to laugh and really enjoy your company on one day, two days most... the next? Ignore her or even hide from her. Every day's a new surprise for her, even though she knows you're in the same building.

It's a funny paradox... but in order to keep attraction growing in a relationship... the closer you are, the more you have to play your distance.

touche!
 

onemorerobot

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Well it's not that I even really see her that often. I usually only see her on the weekends, and even then it's just in passing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Naapimp

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I'm assumming you already have good report with her, which should be easy since you'll see her at work every week. Next you want to talk to her and suggest something like lunch, then you can ask if she wants to do something like this again, if you charmed her right she'll say yes, now you have a reason to need her number, this is important, so now just say, "okay, just give me your number then and I'll let you know" You are both in complete understanding that you have a good reason to have her number and you need it, she'll comply.
 

john_1234

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i agree w/ cruise; but you only see her on the weekends for a brief moment. i suggest planning out what to say the next time you see her. i'm sure you can think of something slick, be it an interesting story, a ****y/funny statement, etc. i have cute girls in my class and i'm planning what to do and say. i'm not going for the kill immediately since i'll be interacting w/ them for months to come. maybe you might want to consider taking this approach
 

blinkwatt

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Cruise said:
Getting the phone number and waiting a few days is ONLY a technique to be used if you know your chances of meeting her again is nil.

Since you work with her... why not just take her out to lunch... you pay yours, she pays hers... no threats, no commitments, just more intimacy. THEN you ask for the number if you're planning on taking her out post-work hours.
Dead on. Just remember anything that you do that she may not like may make work a little akward,you ask her our,she says no,someone hears about it,spreads like a wildfire.
 
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