Question about email

[DJArlington]

I met a cute girl at a speed dating function on Friday and sent her an email on Sunday night (I didn't get her cell#, don't know why) asking her to hang out on Wed/Thurs. She emailed me back on Monday morning saying she was glad that I wrote and said she wanted to hang out either day. I sent an email back saying Thursday, but then realized I had a function to attend to that night and said can we do Friday. I sent her that email yesterday afternoon and now haven't heard back.

2 questions - I should have just asked her for her cell #? She basically just gave me her email address (by the way this girl is a 15 on a scale of 1 to 10 in terms of looks).

the other question is how do you guys feel about getting email addresses?

thanks,
djarlington

 

[Phyzzle]

Actually, the Speed Dating events I've read about, you're not allowed to ask for the phone #. This is partly to remove the pressure and awkwardness of having to turn people down, and thus get more women to show up. Instead, if you both check the "yes" boxes, you get each other's email addresses from the organizers.

the other question is how do you guys feel about getting email addresses?

I remember one guru (David Deangelo?) recommeded getting the email, then asking for her number later. He found that girls with borderline interest were more likely to go ahead and write back to that initial email than answer the phone for that initial call.

 

[DJArlington]

she replied back saying she'll try to make it on friday but wasn't sure. i think may be it's because she has kids. how should i respond to this? i'm not good at this email stuff.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear DJ Arlington,
Well if nobody forbade picking up the digits it seems the logical thing to do...However I agree with David De Angelos quoted take on E.Mails...Ignore her lack of response and write a bright and breezy letter to her right now,not mentioning her previous lack of response and addressing any areas of interest your meeting uncovered,not too long but with a couple of open ended questions,about her interests,don't mention romance...next mail ask for her cell phone number...

 

[DJArlington]

is the lack of a detailed response to my invitation for friday a sign ? should i just act cool and casual, or send the detailed email like sacramouche says?

 

[Alexander the Great]

Arlington, please, please, pretty please with sugar on top, don't, just don't, for manhood's sake don't, fret over her lack of content in a response, or lack of response.

You're already attaching yourself too much to her if you're concerned with that. We don't want to have you posting here in a few days, saying how she shot you down from your six and you didn't see it coming.

Sure, it could be a sign. It also could be that she was rushed, very busy, what-not. To me her response sounds like borderline interest. Not to mention a bit disrespectful. But whatever it means, you shouldn't care. At all.

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Girls like you from the start or they don't. Borderline interest usually means no other more interesting options for them and you shouldn't care one bit. She's coming over into your universe. If she doesn't want to, her loss.

If you're not good at e-mail, then don't use e-mail. Use it to ask her phone number, so you can arrange a get-together. If she doesn't give, you know what time it is.

And remember to always employ the tactics and strategies you're most comfortable with (This should be the phone and face-to-face above e-mail, by the way. ). You must be comfortable, since you're calling the shots.

As for your question, cool and casual or do as Scaramouche suggested: do that which you feel comfortable with, without it giving you a feeling that you're supplicating or trying too hard. You'll know when that is. Even when head over heels (which you are not, but to illustrate the point).

Good luck!

Keep us posted.