"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Question about consciousness...

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Hey Guys

I have a question about consciousness and am hoping to get some sensible replies on this.

Sometimes when I am interacting with people it suddenly feels like my consciousness gets sucked to the top of my head and I am more observing rather than just being.

do any of you guys have this? And what is this?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah, he was quiet and thinking to himself. How's that for a universal example.
 
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Skel said:
can you give an example?
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Example: I am talking with someone and suddenly I become extremely aware of my surroundings, my body language and the other persons body language.

Perhaps I could compare it to a first person shooter with an observer mode.
When it happens It feels like I am going from action mode to observer mode.

I hope you understand.
 
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GS-83,

Google "Persinger god helmet"

The guy and the research are a bit wacky and a bit flawed, but yo umight find it interesting. The guy does research using his personal fortune (hence the wacky stuff, like a "God Helmet").

There's probably a physiological basis for your experience (as there is for basically evry other kind of weird perceptual experience).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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