"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

question about asking this chick out

PurpleHaze

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 10, 2004
Messages
41
Reaction score
1
Age
43
usually i would tell a girl something like:

i'm going to grab some dinner tomorrow night at ___ at 8pm, you should join me." this works pretty well most of the time.


however, with this chick i dont want to word it like i usually do. She is very busy. i swear she works everyday until late then has night class etc. i dont want to throw out that statement and then get rejected by her saying shes working or in class or watever. i need a better way to approach this without being like "lets go out, since your busier than me why dont u pick the day/time"...dont wanna go down that path for obvious reasons.

any advice would be appreciated :rockon:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

foomee

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 8, 2006
Messages
363
Reaction score
1
Age
39
Location
California
just ask her when she's free. say hey i know this great so and so restaurant, i think you would love the fish there, when are you free?
 
Top