"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Willspearec

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What would be a good thing to say to girl that you like and see in the hall but dont know? I was going to ask for her name, but after that I'm not too sure how to carry on the convo. Any suggestions?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You could make fun of what she is wearing. One of my friends passed by a girl he didnt know and said "Psshh, nice earrings." A back-handed compliment.

I might say, " I'm going to hit on you, are you single?

If yes... Well, lets get together/hang out sometime. You have email? (If yes, great, tell her to write it down, if no, "well write down your phone # and then we can get together, I'll set up email for you, and then we'll have a party to welcome you to the 21st century."

If she is not single, "Haha, well, that is too bad for you, infact, I feel so sorry for you that I'm going to give you my number." (If you have a card, great, if not, have a pen ready and paper.)
 
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The more you think about it, chances are the harder it will be for you.

You're not neccesarily going to nail the first handful of approaches you make, but you sure don't have to fail them.

While a lot of guys prefer set lines or gimmicky sayings, I keep it simple.

I'll look a girl into her eyes and smile, "Hey what's your name?"

Boldness alone sets yourself apart from others.

Your conversation should flow freely. Don't think in advance. Question her, it isn't hard. Whatever the situation may be, there's always something to be said. Women love to be questioned about simple things. Most men will say way too much to come off as intelligent, only to look like an idiot.

So what brings you to ___?
I know I've seen you around before, do you ____?

Of course as you catch on, you will learn that women who show signs of digging you will respond well to more outgoing gestures.

But when you approach, be simple, original, confident, and to the point. Make it known that you'd like to meet her, and you're worth her time, but you're not going to waste it.
 
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