"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Question about a missed chance with this broad!

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Theres this chick at my former traineeship company. We used to make a lot of eye contact and chatted her up once which was a fun convo, she gave me iois.Today i went to my last day of my traineeship for a presentation. She noticed me
and passed me closeley, i didn't speak to her which i regret.. I had the chance i Just know by the way she passed me. I was preparing myself for my presentation and Just didn't talk to her. You guys think itll be weird if i added her on Facebook and tried to numberclose in the chat. Remember she doesnt know me we chatted once

Offcourse id like to get a date with this hb7 blonde cutie.

Btw it was officialy my last day no chance of seeing her in the future.

I know i had to chat her up build some comfort and close. But it didn't happen. Any thoughts about Facebook approach guys?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wouldnt bother mate, facebookin a bird who hasnt given you her fb/told you to add her makes you look like a creeper
 

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I for one, literally think Facebook is the worst invention ever created. You see things you don't want to see with a chick, you learn things you don't want to learn about a chick, and most importantly, it's the worst medium to use for contact with a chick.

All this being said, I also believe in no regrets. I think I would give it a final shot so you can have a peaceful mind whether she saids yes or no. I'm guessing you can use an opening line on how you would like to talk about the traineeship company and/or network with her over some drinks/food.

I'm not sure how the girls are over there in Holland but hopefully she puts out first date so you can come back here and tell us all the juicy details. Good luck OP
 

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I personally have looked up/researched Facebook to eventually find a woman who I had a missed opportunity.

I would put the ego-talk on the shelf here - what does your heart desire? If you can put a closure to this possibility/impossibility with this woman, why let your ego stand in the way of befriending her on Facebook?

Heck, you don't even have to FB friend her, just send her a message.

I had the same exact situation in a weekend day seminar where this hot woman HB8+ was in. We got partnered together in exercises, and by the end of the seminar we were holding each other hands when saying goodbye. It was just kindred spirited - I didn't ask her for contact info, I am sure it killed her as much.

However, by destiny or fate - I saw her on Facebook after befriending the instructor of the seminar and she was a friend to the instructor already. She was very enthusiastic that we were able to reconnect. I ended up taking her out on a couple of serious dates but I NEXTed her eventually (I NEXT lots of women, don't take it as a Facebook thing, not related).

So do what your heart feels right, show interest, but don't chase. Women ain't gonna initiate 98% of the time and won't show up at your doorstep. If it happens, she be damn fugly most likely as those women chase men more than not.

You only look like a creep if she doesn't want anything to do with you and you keep hanging around on her Facebook. Unfriend yourself and be civilized then.

Be well.

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You have nothing to lose, go for it. If it's going to get you thinking "what if?" eliminate that thought by just doing it.

Personally, I wouldn't add her but just send her a message saying what you want to say. Get into a bit of casual chit chat about work...

Risk the creep(post coming about it)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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That's creeper territory you'll be entering by doing that. I, myself, would never use FB or Twitter for that. Yeah, it's tempting and easy, but it undeniably makes you a stalker.
 

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VladPatton said:
That's creeper territory you'll be entering by doing that. I, myself, would never use FB or Twitter for that. Yeah, it's tempting and easy, but it undeniably makes you a stalker.
If you're never going to see the girl again? Why not give it a shot, she may think it's creepy, she may have seen him around and liked him.

The proof will be in the pudding.
 

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Mr Wright said:
If you're never going to see the girl again? Why not give it a shot, she may think it's creepy, she may have seen him around and liked him.

The proof will be in the pudding.
I, for one, am interested to see how this pudding turns out. Drop her a message, Gambino! Update us on how it goes.
 

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Any thoughts about an interesting opener bros? Not bein creepy
 

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Here's what I would do:

Remember how you feel right now at this instant.

The next time you see a girl that you should approach and you start to hesitate, THINK BACK TO THIS MOMENT. Think how if you could have done it to this other girl you would have, and how much you regret doing nothing.

Then approach the new girl.

The old one is gone. Move on.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well mate, it depends on how far she lives from you; is she in the city or within an hour in distance from you?

If she's close by, then just click on the link to request to be her FB friend.

DO NOTHING ELSE - this will be a good indicator of her interest if she allows you onto her Facebook (there are exceptions, attention whoores always allow any mutha****en guys to be friends to increase their total friend count. How to recognize AW's?? They have a friend count over 300-500.)

If you get an accept to FB as her friend - just start charming her a bit with an initial message about how you are glad to saw her profile by looking at something else related blah blah blah. Let a few days pass by, then hit her up for an invite to get a coffee or something non-threatening.

If she is long distance - forget it, use your time better elsewhere.

Good luck.

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Uncharted said:
The old one is gone. Move on.
I don't understand this mindset. There is literally nothing to lose by giving it a shot, so why not do it? You or I have no idea what this girl thinks or how she will react to what happens next, the only way you will find out is by taking action. If it doesn't pay off, you can leave it knowing you did what you could.

Personally I don't add the girls on facebook because it gives them a get out clause, if they don't want to reply they do not have to but I will give them an enticing message to start with. Then after a few messages, I'd say something like "if I add you, you won't turn into some stalker will you?" (flip the script)

As for the original message, you worked with her, is there anything particularly funny you could use? You may as well go in pretty hard because there's not a lot to lose.
 

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Ill Just casually add her on Facebook if shes online in the chat Ill message her, creep or Not got nothin to lose!

Thx for yo replies bros
 

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TheGambino said:
Ill Just casually add her on Facebook if shes online in the chat Ill message her, creep or Not got nothin to lose!

Thx for yo replies bros
I wouldn't do anthing else until she ACCEPTS your FB friend request. Don't wait for it either - go hunting for other women. She's just a nice BONUS if she comes around. Also if you get on her FB - hunt for signs of she having a boyfriend, and save yourself a waste of time and being AWed.

Good luck.

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Mr Wright said:
I don't understand this mindset. There is literally nothing to lose by giving it a shot, so why not do it? You or I have no idea what this girl thinks or how she will react to what happens next, the only way you will find out is by taking action. If it doesn't pay off, you can leave it knowing you did what you could.

Personally I don't add the girls on facebook because it gives them a get out clause, if they don't want to reply they do not have to but I will give them an enticing message to start with. Then after a few messages, I'd say something like "if I add you, you won't turn into some stalker will you?" (flip the script)

As for the original message, you worked with her, is there anything particularly funny you could use? You may as well go in pretty hard because there's not a lot to lose.
This is why I said in the beginning to put the ego on the shelf.

A lot of men on here still talk a big macho game and will criticize other men for not doing the 'manly' (egotistical) way of gaming.

The problem is, there's 3 billion men on this planet - we can afford a bit of variety and slack in how games run.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I approached her once at the coffee corner. She was working on some project at the begin of my traineeship which I was involved in too we had one meeting together where I introduced myself to her and her colleagues. There was an event going on later that week which we were both invited to but we both refused the offer. So at that time I approached her and asked her why she couldn't go to the event and told her my reason. Also asked her where she lived and where she usually goes out too. Felt like we were vibing. After that approach she always looked into my office smiling to me . I ignored her a bit during my traineeship not approaching her or so and she looked some kind of confused yet interested I can tell. Was puttin my work on #1 and not messing with girls at all at traineeship.

Today was my last day she was in a meeting in front of me and afterwards she went to her office she saw me talking to a girl and twice she looked in our direction her body language just changed when I was talking to the other girl. 1 minute later she comes back and passes me to go to the toilet, perfect spot for me to chat her up and close -.-'. I didn't looked in her direction and got back to my work.

And here we are know haha
 

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TheGambino said:
I approached her once at the coffee corner. She was working on some project at the begin of my traineeship which I was involved in too we had one meeting together where I introduced myself to her and her colleagues. There was an event going on later that week which we were both invited to but we both refused the offer. So at that time I approached her and asked her why she couldn't go to the event and told her my reason. Also asked her where she lived and where she usually goes out too. Felt like we were vibing. After that approach she started to smile to me more often but I never spoke to her again only smiled if I saw her but she always looked at me somehow confused and interested like whats up with this guy I can tell. Was puttin my work on #1 and not messing with girls at all at traineeship.

Today was my last day she was in a meeting in front of me and afterwards she went to her office she saw me talking to a girl and twice she looked in our direction her body language just changed when I was talking to the other girl. 1 minute later she comes back and passes me to go to the toilet, perfect spot for me to chat her up and close -.-'. I didn't looked in her direction and got back to my work.

And here we are know haha
You will know if she was trying to game you when she accepts your FB friend request or not.

For now stop analyzing because it won't change a thing. Go watch some p0rn or something more educational LOL....


I also believe 'What is meant for you will never pass you by in life'.

So if you aren't meant to meet her again, then be all right with it and let it go.

Exodus
 

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GotED? said:
You will know if she was trying to game you when she accepts your FB friend request or not.

For now stop analyzing because it won't change a thing. Go watch some p0rn or something more educational LOL....


I also believe 'What is meant for you will never pass you by in life'.

So if you aren't meant to meet her again, then be all right with it and let it go.

Exodus
True that my man, done lol
 
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