query for the lucky ones who got past bootcamp week 1

[scorpio king]

I need advice from the lucky souls who got past week 1 of bootcamp and specially to the people who make it so easy saying hello.


My problem is when I initiate eye contact, (most do not look) they look away quickly not giving me enough time to smile and say hello. Its my first attempt for the bootcamp exercise 1. I find it real tough saying hello to total strangers. When I have the courage to say hello, they do not even make eye contact. Damn!

Could you give me your advice on how you handled this kind of sitaution? YOu know you went from this stage.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

lucky souls that make it past week 1? tell me why it is luck rather then effort that got them through and not you, and i will answer your question.

 

[nishbuk]

It's easy.

Next time they look down, you say "hi".

Next time they don't meet your gaze, you say "hi".

Next time they ignore you, you say "hi"

And you don't just say "hi", you say:
"HI!".

When you can do this, you'll see why we can get passed Week 1. Hang in there. You're just not doing what it takes. That simple. Do whatever it takes. Whatever that is.

Be loud and be proud.
I mean honestly, do you really give a FVCK what people who you dont' know think about you?

Just do it.

 

[scorpio king]

ok checkmate Its not luck its balls.

Now could you answer my question?



thanks nishbuk.

so what you mean to say is that i dont have to initiate eye contact and smile to say hello? isnt this the steps the exercise says?

man after you answer this I'll guarantee you that I would do it

 

[mrRuckus]

Originally posted by scorpio king
I need advice from the lucky souls who got past week 1 of bootcamp and specially to the people who make it so easy saying hello.


My problem is when I initiate eye contact, (most do not look) they look away quickly not giving me enough time to smile and say hello. Its my first attempt for the bootcamp exercise 1. I find it real tough saying hello to total strangers. When I have the courage to say hello, they do not even make eye contact. Damn!

Could you give me your advice on how you handled this kind of sitaution? YOu know you went from this stage.

Just say hi anyway. They usually will look up and say something back or at least acknowledge you at this point. "whoa someone acknowledged my existance." Then they look down again =p

I used to never say hi or even acknowledge other people i'd pass now i'll say hi or whatever to nearly everyone. For some reason saying a more than one word sentence feels like awkward... or even more than one syllable. I usually say "hello", "good morning," "how's it going," or "what's up?"

 

[Chrisman]

What's the big deal with saying hi??? I'm a shy person, but I can hi to people. There's absolutely nothing on the line here. Who cares if they don't make eye contact? Say hi, and they'll look at you again. No big deal.

 

[scorpio king]

I did it!

It felt so damn goooooodddddd!!!!!

 

[Boner da Stoner]

congrats man, I have to work on speaking up, I think I'm going to go for the goods and take all the bootcamps here shezzler style and do it to the xtreme...

yeah some of the game depends on luck, roll the dice, think about craps, blow on the dice, jazz up your roll a little, get a chick to kiss your cheek before you go off to do a intro...

confidence boosters man, get them first, if they work, they up your enthusiasm soooooooo much

hehe here's a tip I use when I sarge(and this is a note to self)

after I say hi to a girl, and she ignores me, I'm going to stick to it and follow her for a bit... "I'm down on my luck!" wait for her to say anything "I need some luck, blow on my neck or kiss my cheek... I'm GOING to meet the love of my life today" any girl with a heart will gladly help you out any way she can, even some kino for luck(pat on the back)

Next time you see her she WILL recognize you and you can neg-hit her with "gahd!!! get away from me, your bad luck!!!"

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

hey scorpio looks like i didnt get back to you in time, anyway well done, after Reading your question, well although sometimes i go around looking for ec to see ig girls are checking me out when i aproach which i dont do that often, well i dont wait for ec i just say hey, and last time it happened i was shot down, it didnt knock my confidence it just made me feel angry with the girl.

 

[mrRuckus]

Originally posted by Chrisman
What's the big deal with saying hi??? I'm a shy person, but I can hi to people. There's absolutely nothing on the line here. Who cares if they don't make eye contact? Say hi, and they'll look at you again. No big deal.

There's nothing on the line having a normal conversation with strangers either so why are you shy at all?

What's the big deal? You think they're going to say "you talk like an idiot?" No, most likely they're worrying about how they're coming off so much they barely notice you if you say something a little weird.

If people want to get over their shyness starting at the ground level by making eye contact and saying hi and gradually increasing their comfortable level what's the big deal?

I used to be painfully shy when i was in middle school and into high school and i've gotten tons better without even trying. I wonder what would happen if i actually tried. Right now my problem is small talk (just don't care about it). But give me a topic of substance and all the shyness goes away and i can blab on forever. Funny thing is that my gf is the least shy person i've ever known and is a master small talker and just floats around the room talking to absolutely everybody about absolutely nothing. I don't get the entertainment value of fluff talk but whatever makes her happy... i watch her a bit to learn just how to do small talk.