"Quality" girlfriend, but I still have "doubts"

[GoodboyBadboy]

I've been together with my current girlfriend for about 6 months now and things are great, but I still have some re-occuring, suspicious thoughts about her.
She's a year younger than me, 17, very cute, comes from a good family, is not a party girl and does well in school. In other words, she's very "pure" or whatever you'd like to call it. I'm her first "real" boyfriend, she's been "in love" with another guy before, but he strictly wanted to keep the relationship physical, but he broke it off with her before things happened, he went for her friend instead. She says she's never even kissed a guy before me, but I find that hard to believe, and I don't mind if she has been either. I took her virginity.

Now to my "problem". Because she is so "inexperienced", I feel like she hasn't been tested enough. As if she doesn't realise what kind of guy she has (me, a damn good catch if I can say so myself ). She constantly declares her love for me and is a "perfect" girlfriend, but I still have doubts. She sometimes talks to guys who hit on her, keeps up the conversation, for her it's just a normal interaction, nothing more to it, and says she finds it hard to reject guys flat out, although she always brings up that she has a boyfriend. Maybe it's because she doesn't go out so much? I don't know.
It's hard to describe what I'm feeling...for instance, when she turns 18 and can go to clubs, I'm not so sure how she'd act...at least I have a bad feeling about it...I really shouldn't have...she's the sweetest and most innocent girl you've laid your eyes on...but then again, she's not all that sweet and innocent when she blows me or I f.ck her behind bushes outdoors or in restaurant toilets...

This is more of a rant really....Hope some of you can try to understand what it is I'm finding disturbing....Feel free to ask questions if things are unclear.

 

[KontrollerX]

She's too young.

It won't last.

Enjoy the ride and try to be the one who dumps her first and you may get some more mileage out of this chick.

Begin emotionally detaching yourself from her at this moment and keep in mind if it is a serious long term relationship you desire wait until you are 25-26 and date chicks that age as well who are ready for that.

Your girl is in her fun stage now and you are part of that before she breaks free and fvcks the football team.

You can remain part of the fun stage if you play your cards right and make sure to dump her as soon as you can when you sense things are heading downhill and she starts disrespecting you.

It will be subtle disrespect at first.

 

[GoodboyBadboy]

I hear ya KontrollerX...but this girl...she's what this community would call a "quality" girl...you really think she'll turn that way? After I leave her I'm sure she would, because I've opened up a whole new sexual side of her, but while she's still with me, you think things will turn sour?

 

[KontrollerX]

Well there are two opposing beliefs in the community.

I and Str8up don't believe in "quality women" we simply believe women are women and will do as their momentary desires and emotions tell them to do.

When I use the term quality woman I am simply referring to women who don't have any or many red flags in their past but yeah quality women as a term for a good girl or a girl that will never cheat on you under any circumstance I just don't think exists. If a good enough opportunity arises or perceived good enough opportunity arises just about anyone male or female will sell you out.

Anyway you've already said in your opening post from the way she is sexual with you that you don't think she is innocent and though you may of been her first it is clear you are a taste of things to come for her lol and this has probably excited her for other guys.

This is no real fault of your own as anyone who was her first would've awakened the kind of sexual being she would go on to be.

To clarify the points in my previous post though what I meant about you getting more mileage out of her by dumping her is by you dumping her when you sense the relationship is starting to go south that puts you in the power position and perhaps stirs the waters of regret and sadness within her of what could of been.

So even after you dump her if she goes and fvcks the basketball team and the coach she may think to herself oh what could of been with GoodboyBadboy and then she'll give you a call which will proceed to a meeting which will proceed to you shoving your c0ck down her throat once again.

Then you simply follow what I said before about dumping her before she dumps you during your second relationship stint with her and you'll get to enjoy her body for a third time most likely.

Repeat as often as she comes back.

 

[GoodboyBadboy]

I don't think I could ever take her back if I dump her, I really care(d) for this girl. I get the feeling though that I'm creating problems out of nothing, it's not like anything is wrong in the relationship right now, so it feels unneccessary to deattach myself from her, since things are going well. Worrying about something that might eventually happen in the future is more of an afc trait, don't you think?

 

[KontrollerX]

Hmmm you've got a point.

However if she shows you disrespectful behavior either subtley or outright and it goes on for a while thats when you know its endgame for your relationship.

Thats when you know you have to be the one to end things first and the time to detach yourself emotionally from her.

So yeah you can keep your emotions for her until the disrespect starts in.

Hopefully it never does but hey thats the thing to watch for once again when a relationship is starting to fall apart.

Another thing to watch for that spells the end for certain is her suggesting you two should take a break.

Breaks are bullsh!t and code for I want to go fvck other guys and keep you on the backburner as my security if things don't work out.

 

[GoodboyBadboy]

KontrollerX, do you have any experience with these things, or are you just regurgitating what have previously been said on this site?

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

I hear ya KontrollerX...but this girl...she's what this community would call a "quality" girl...you really think she'll turn that way?

The girls on the 23 + age range those are quality girls because they went through the "fun period" of high school plus drinking age AND ARE STILL QUALITY! You can't really call your gf a quality girl because she is too young. She has to avoid the temptations of high school plus drinking age to prove that her will and morals is stronger than any social pressure. If she does and at 23 years old + and she is still quality than yes she is a quality girl and marriage material. Your girl is quality now but in a year she will be a hor like the rest of them. Just don't expect to find many of these and the ones that you do find are already taken.

 

[KontrollerX]

KontrollerX, do you have any experience with these things, or are you just regurgitating what have previously been said on this site?

Look if you're a regular troll of this site or one of my enemies from past sites get lost.

I don't engage in e-drama anymore.

If this was an innocent question my apologies but it will not be answered because of its accusatory tone and because its simply a stupid question.

If you don't believe a guy is credible then don't pay attention to him.

Simple.

So again if you find my advice lacking in credibility disregard all that I have said in this thread and refrain from giving me rep points for anymore old posts that I've made which you did before we even got to speaking in this thread here.

If your GF hangs out... 02-27-2008 07:50 AM GoodboyBadboy True

 

[GoodboyBadboy]

Look if you're a regular troll of this site or one of my enemies from past sites get lost.

I don't engage in e-drama anymore.

If this was an innocent question my apologies but it will not be answered because of its accusatory tone and because its simply a stupid question.

If you don't believe a guy is credible then don't pay attention to him.

Simple.

So again if you find my advice lacking in credibility disregard all that I have said in this thread and refrain from giving me rep points for anymore old posts that I've made which you did before we even got to speaking in this thread here.

If your GF hangs out... 02-27-2008 07:50 AM GoodboyBadboy True

Listen, why are you getting so defensive about my question? I asked wether or not you've had a girlfriend who turned "bad" at some point, because your responses seemed automatic and rehearsed.
The rep point I gave you for your other post has nothing to do with this situation, as it is different.

 

[GoodboyBadboy]

The girls on the 23 + age range those are quality girls because they went through the "fun period" of high school plus drinking age AND ARE STILL QUALITY! You can't really call your gf a quality girl because she is too young. She has to avoid the temptations of high school plus drinking age to prove that her will and morals is stronger than any social pressure. If she does and at 23 years old + and she is still quality than yes she is a quality girl and marriage material. Your girl is quality now but in a year she will be a hor like the rest of them. Just don't expect to find many of these and the ones that you do find are already taken.

This exactly what I've been trying to say, that my girl hasn't been "tested" yet. But the problem still remains, if I start deattaching myself from her now and then it turns out she is a "quality" girl, then I've lost something good...man girlfriends are headaches, after this girl I'm not considering a LTR in a LOOOONG time, too young for this kind of bullsh!t stress.

 

[Chase12]

Dude dont listen to the robot DJs of this site... if the relationship is going well then have fun.. you dont have to marry her.. but you dont have get "emotionally deatached" from her to have fun.. Let her talk to guys who cares.. wouldnt u get pissed if ur gf gets pissed at u talking to a girl-friend?

Now if she does indeed do something with a guy or starts to drink alot, etc.. well then you have a problem.. but dont **** up ur (what seems to be a nice) relation ship for some bs problems that are only in your mind