Qualifying Questions/Statements

[LegendBoy]

I think this is one of the best conversational tools a DJ has.. You can swing a conversation from slow and pointless to the girl, SUBCONCIOUSLY trying to prove herself to you..

I must admit I am not good as this, so any suggestions..

One springs to mind

"So what makes you an interesting girl" ... Instantly she is thinking so ye what makes me interesting.. Usually they respond with I don't know and shiyt and you can poke fun at them.. These both work online and offline..

Any more views and qualifying statements questions..

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

This is the problem that causes guys to keep meeting women who aren't good for them. The trick to knowing how to qualify a woman is to first defining what type of woman is qualified in your eyes; and this doesn't mean just looks or superficial qualities. To be able to choose a woman that's qualified, you have to have a definition of quality.

 

[LegendBoy]

I understand what you are saying. But at my age I am not looking for marriage so there qualities which I do not desire will come out soon enough..

I am more so asking for exxamples of lines where the girl automatically is trying to prove herself to you. I mean if she isn't interested at all. This will not work. But if she thinks your cute/hot or has some kind of interest then questiosn where it forces them to give reasoning and qualify themselves can really put you in control of the situation with the girl.

 

[Impact]

From WMS:
-"You could never be my girl!"
-"Why do you say that?"
-"Cause I like good/bad girls" - the opposite of what you think she is.

 

[Thomas94305]

I really like.. figuring out what kind of girl you want, and then earnestly ask to check if she is your type.. Honest and fair. I hate women that just go out to dinner. I ask early what they do for fun. If it's just dinner & movies, NEXT... If it's something more, then she knows she's been qualified, and it makes sense to take the next step.

 

[Snow Plowman]

Don't make qualifying obvious because then it won't really have the affect of you coming from a position of power. I remember just qualifying for the sake of it and realizing I'd actually kill the set. It must come from a curious mindset.

But Qualifying is pretty helpful (Lowers flakes, have the girl act a certain way around you, etc)

- One way to qualify is misdirection (What "Impact" posted above)
- Mix qualifying with elastic snapback effect (Do you have a belly button ring? OMG you can't show me it I'll fall in love with you.)
- Challenging them (I bet you can't...?)

There is a lot of qualifying stuff you can do. Even Qualify mixed with getting the #. A good we for when you have to quickly get somewhere and not making worrying about making the set solid.