Puzzled

[excused]

Hi all,

Im new here. Im from Singapore by the way. A few days ago, I PM a girl in facebook who is actually a friend of my friend. We have met each other before. At first we were exchanging messages then after several messages, I asked her a question. It's simply a very general question like what's she doing now at her school?

Until now, she hasn't replied. But I know she is online a lot of the times because facebook keeps the friends' network updated. She even has time to do graffiti for her other male friends instead of replying my simple message. Previously she was very prompt in her messages. Im just puzzled what really happened.

Should I send her a message again or just pretend nothing has ever happened?

What do you guys think? Thanks!

 

[smooth guy]

its a boring question. Talk more about stuff that'll trigger some of her emotions.

Logical stuff and general questions aren't the way to go in the middle of the conversation.

 

[ronjohn]

I hate the 'message game'. This can happen with emails, text message, facebook posts, etc. It can happen with males (i.e. professors) or females (i.e. in your case). The way I look at it, there are 2 options:

1). Send her another message.

2). Ignore her.

I would send her another message, stating a definite ("more interesting", as the previous poster mentioned) message. If she doesn't respond to this message, ignore her.

When dealing with other means of messaging, there is always the slight chance the message didn't go through, so it may be good to follow up a 2nd time.. but with facebook, the messages are pretty much guaranteed... so you know she received it. Maybe she read it and didn't see the need in responding (it was too vague a question - if someone posts on my facebook wall "What's up??", I don't necessarily respond)... or maybe she hasn't read it yet (unlikely). Just send another message with a question she HAS to answer.

 

[Jaxon]

You are in Singapore...where is she? If the answer is anywhere other than Singapore then you're wasting your time.
What are you wanting to get out of talking to her? I'm assuming you want to go out with this girl but you don't specify.
Based on what you've already said you are messaging her too much and too frequently. You need to escalate it, get the # and move on from there.

 

[excused]

its a boring question. Talk more about stuff that'll trigger some of her emotions.

Logical stuff and general questions aren't the way to go in the middle of the conversation.

Could you give a specific example of questions that trigger emotions? thanks

 

[excused]

I hate the 'message game'. This can happen with emails, text message, facebook posts, etc. It can happen with males (i.e. professors) or females (i.e. in your case). The way I look at it, there are 2 options:

1). Send her another message.

2). Ignore her.

I would send her another message, stating a definite ("more interesting", as the previous poster mentioned) message. If she doesn't respond to this message, ignore her.

When dealing with other means of messaging, there is always the slight chance the message didn't go through, so it may be good to follow up a 2nd time.. but with facebook, the messages are pretty much guaranteed... so you know she received it. Maybe she read it and didn't see the need in responding (it was too vague a question - if someone posts on my facebook wall "What's up??", I don't necessarily respond)... or maybe she hasn't read it yet (unlikely). Just send another message with a question she HAS to answer.

So in your opinion, how long do you think I should wait before sending another message ?

 

[excused]

You are in Singapore...where is she? If the answer is anywhere other than Singapore then you're wasting your time.
What are you wanting to get out of talking to her? I'm assuming you want to go out with this girl but you don't specify.
Based on what you've already said you are messaging her too much and too frequently. You need to escalate it, get the # and move on from there.

She's from Singapore too. I was thinking of building rapport over facebook.

And then get her msn or number and then see how things go from there.

Do you guys think I should wait for a few days before sending her a message?

 

[jimmyjack]

Hi all,

Im new here. Im from Singapore by the way. A few days ago, I PM a girl in facebook who is actually a friend of my friend. We have met each other before. At first we were exchanging messages then after several messages, I asked her a question. It's simply a very general question like what's she doing now at her school?

Until now, she hasn't replied. But I know she is online a lot of the times because facebook keeps the friends' network updated. She even has time to do graffiti for her other male friends instead of replying my simple message. Previously she was very prompt in her messages. Im just puzzled what really happened.

Should I send her a message again or just pretend nothing has ever happened?

What do you guys think? Thanks!

she is not thinking obout you thats why if not i believe she should have replyed you earlier.its all about the game if you understand what i mean so keep sending messages,if she does not reply after a couple of messages then she is not intrested in you right from the begining but what do you want to do with this girl,we like to cause you are using the internet when they are girls outside the street.pls get back to us:rockon:

 

[Mr Autobahn]

she is not thinking obout you thats why if not i believe she should have replyed you earlier.its all about the game if you understand what i mean so keep sending messages,if she does not reply after a couple of messages then she is not intrested in you right from the begining but what do you want to do with this girl,we like to cause you are using the internet when they are girls outside the street.pls get back to us:rockon:

That is what I am thinking too. You see, finding a great woman and dating her is a numbers game. And sure, some guys say that they can get the woman to drop her panties right away.

But still...

The reality is that you need to spread your net and talk to as many woman as you can. There are lots of reason why a woman isn't interested in you. The primary one is that she ISN'T ready. She already has a guy, she is already interested in another guy or pick your excuse...

So, the plan is get back on the horse and find more potential women that you are interested in. I certainly hope the Facebook isn't the ONLY method you are using to meet women! Get out there -- Singapore is a crowded city. Find something you like doing that has a lot of women. Dancing -- classes -- book clubs.

Good luck.

 

[excused]

I was also thinking of expanding my circle of female friends, thats why I decided to build rapport over facebook.

Oh well, if she's not interested in me, she could just introduce a few of her single female friends haha...