Putting yourself first before your girlfriend?

[The North Dragon]

hi guys just another quick thread and looking for advice for future relationships as mine just came to and end.

you can have a look at the thread i posted earlier this week herehttp://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=224816

Anyway towards the end of my relationship my gf broke up with me and said i
-i always put myself first
- i never made her a priority
- everything i done i thought about myself
- i was selfish and immature
- she complained about not texting her enough and wanted me to pester her more via texts and phone calls as she thought she done most of the work.

don't get me a wrong i would make an effort but i would try make sure she was more invested than me.

After she ended it via text i just ignored it, never begged or pleaded for answers or to reconsider just went on my usually business and we haven't spoke since.

I seen her at college today and just walked on by as if she was a stranger and my classmate told me today that she shook her head at me. She knows i don't want a friendship so what does she expect? i did this the last time she ended it and kept approaching me on nights out on weekends.

So my main question is to you guys is how i acted/behaved considered wrong/alpha/beta or what? did i act like a goon or mature?

should you make her a priority and put her first or just sometimes and have to find balance?

i only ask so i know for future reference.

 

[Yorkex]

If you did all the this above ....CONGRATULATIONS !
She is a low quality woman who wants constant attention , you didn't give her that and she liked the challenge because she thought she could change you into a Beta male.
This break up ( If she broke up with you , was her last card ...she wants to see if you are going to run back and beg for her )
Don't cave and let her win , go about your business the same way you handled it today. If she messages you , ignore it. If she says hi to you in person , keep it short and keep walking.

 

[Yewki]

What Yorkex said, and the title of this thread shouldn't be a question. It should be a statement of fact.

Putting any girl before yourself is f*cking pathetic. If she expected that, good thing she made it easy for you and filtered herself out.

 

[The North Dragon]

What Yorkex said, and the title of this thread shouldn't be a question. It should be a statement of fact.

Putting any girl before yourself is f*cking pathetic. If she expected that, good thing she made it easy for you and filtered herself out.

nah i never would bro but started to doubt myself a little as she made me feel guilty about them things and for i while i believed it

 

[The North Dragon]

If you did all the this above ....CONGRATULATIONS !
She is a low quality woman who wants constant attention , you didn't give her that and she liked the challenge because she thought she could change you into a Beta male.
This break up ( If she broke up with you , was her last card ...she wants to see if you are going to run back and beg for her )
Don't cave and let her win , go about your business the same way you handled it today. If she messages you , ignore it. If she says hi to you in person , keep it short and keep walking.

yeah she split from me but too be honest i can't see that she is waiting for me to chase her. She's extremely stubborn and to proud to even probably try texting me again since I've ignored her last text.

 

[G_Govan]

Anyway towards the end of my relationship my gf broke up with me and said i
-i always put myself first
- i never made her a priority
- everything i done i thought about myself
- i was selfish and immature
- she complained about not texting her enough and wanted me to pester her more via texts and phone calls as she thought she done most of the work.

She didn't like you having the upper hand, which is going to happen from time to time. Your willingness to walk away without looking back is going to make you stronger over time (as long as it's real and you approach new opportunities).

Sometimes they cave when they see they can't control you but sometimes they don't, which is fine. Having options will make this a non-issue for you.

Women have an inflated sense of self worth due to the amount of thirsty men out here. However, when you're fat and happy they can't cast that spell on you.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

She's your gf not some slutty 9 that needs her ego challenged. The advice given here is mostly to deal with stuck up women that get a lot of attention from society. These posters will congratulate you, but there's a reason they are single and have the most pessimistic views on women. How would you feel if your gf did that to you? The whole site would accuse her of monkey branching and tell you to end it before it's too late. Just read your topic you linked. Sounds like to me you gave her a weak assed no.

 

[The North Dragon]

She's your gf not some slutty 9 that needs her ego challenged. The advice given here is mostly to deal with stuck up women that get a lot of attention from society. These posters will congratulate you, but there's a reason they are single and have the most pessimistic views on women. How would you feel if your gf did that to you? The whole site would accuse her of monkey branching and tell you to end it before it's too late. Just read your topic you linked. Sounds like to me you gave her a weak assed no.

she loved attention especially at hers previous jobs from older men etc.

I don't believe she left for me another guy but i am not saying that it isn't a possibility. Last time she split we went a month for NC and she came back but wasn't with anyone however she complained about they way i treated her and the only way i would learn my lesson was if she finished with me.

At the end of the day i still said no which is surely better than pleading, grovelling for her to reconsider and try to change for etc

 

[Dhoulmagus]

she loved attention especially at hers previous jobs from older men etc.

I don't believe she left for me another guy but i am not saying that it isn't a possibility. Last time she split we went a month for NC and she came back but wasn't with anyone however she complained about they way i treated her and the only way i would learn my lesson was if she finished with me.

At the end of the day i still said no which is surely better than pleading, grovelling for her to reconsider and try to change for etc

If she hasn't been with any other guys than it is most likely you tbh. If you actually said no and didn't lead her on than I would be mad too honestly. 700 is a lot lol.

 

[The North Dragon]

If she hasn't been with any other guys than it is most likely you tbh. If you actually said no and didn't lead her on than I would be mad too honestly. 700 is a lot lol.

Lead her on? I said no for ages. We argued and argued about it until finally she made me feel guilty enough about it then I said I would help her out only to be thrown back in my face.

Then she had a reason to finish with me because she made an argument out of it. She waited until it peaked then dumped all the blame on me and made me look to be the bad guy.

 

[The North Dragon]

They know what to say to get under your skin...sounds like she just got bored and is somehow criticizing you for what attracted her to you in the first place.

ex: my ex told me that I was "very open with my feelings" during the relationship, a "cold blooded unromantic ass" during the breakup, and "I think you will get married soon" after the breakup...lol

I am very close with my my feelings and very rarely open up to anyone. I would rather keep it to myself than open up to a woman or most people.