"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pussification is alive and kicking on facebook

Veridin

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Rollo Tomassi said:
All of these sites are textbook examples of Beta Game.
So true, and a good word to keep in mind, beta game. Funny how this strategy appears in so many ways through the ages. The inverted values, the resentment, the low badmouthing the high as a strategy for getting ahead.

That they are in fact using this as beta game is proven by how the group creator had to add the extra instructions I quoted above:

New posters please keep in mind that his group is not a dating service. Nor a group to tell everyone how wonderful you are. This is a group for discussing being a gentlemen, the lack of them, or other such topics. I will be deleting any posts that are either A. trying to use this group as some sort of dating service or B.mindlessly posting to tell us your a gentleman.
-Jag
You see that all the time in internet forums, by the way. Some guy gets tired of the games women play and makes a thread about it, or about laws catering to feminism, or something he read in the newspaper. A feminist jumps in to attack his character instead of his arguments - and is joined by one or two "men" hoping to score with her if they praise women and curse the first guy. It's beta game.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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