"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Pushing Comfort Zones

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Hey,

This is a thread I am starting just to get opinions etc on pushing comfort zones, in all social environments.

So.. How DO you 'PUSH' that comfort zone?

-examples?

Personally I used to have no social problems, very great comfort 'zones' and now I seem to have depleted those zones by not socializing enough - tips on how to get old personality back? Im kinda assuming that by trying to socialise harder it will come back naturally.

Id like to set goals on self improvement in terms of breaking by comfort zone barriers every day. In recent environments I have ended up sometimes taking a more sociable option, and surprisingly it works better than taking no risk at all. Strange logic, but I think thats just life.
Any tips on goal setting for my self-improvement? i.e. talk to 50 different people each day minimum... have a sexual conversation with a girl everyday, consciously push my comfort zone 15 x / day?

Im very able and willing to do most things suggested to me.

CoOl.
//Fruity.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I like your dedication. Im probably gonna propose things you can do, and not goals. You wanna try living on your edge every day.

This stuff can be almost anything man, just think of anything that you'd be embarressed or scared of.

Talking random **** and amusing yourself on www.omegle.com (I find that this might be a good idea to start off, as you become more comfortable with not caring).

Singing in traffic, walking backwards, hugging a tree and talking to people, telling embarresing stories out loud to no one while people walk around. Open sets 10 meters away, and so forth.

Talking up in class.

Use rediculus openers. Ex: singing a song.

Yeah. There's soo many things, think outside the box. I'll add more when I remember.
 
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Hey, and thanks for the reply.

The thing is, i dont think approach anxiety or public humiliation is really my problem (i could be wrong), more just being more sociable, and finding/improving my sociableness to be a much more popular and valued guy at school.
 
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